Hi Fellow Brides-to-be!
I have a dilemma on my hands! my Bridesmaid and I have had a falling out (although i'm not sure what over) and she has quit.
To give you a bit of background. I have been friends with her for a few years and she has been friends with my Fiance' for about 15 years. She was incredibly excited to be a bridesmaid, she came to every dress appointment, was giving the other bridesmaids ideas on the hens and the wedding day and photos and what not, then she made a new friend and her behaviour changed a bit - the night before our engagement party she was staying over to help me set up the next day but left at midnight to go to her friends place, she didnt turn up to the engagement party until 2 hours after it started, was with everyone for about an hour before taking herself to bed and then taking herself home the next morning. When i spoke to her at the engagement i didnt get angry at her, or even have a go at her, i just let it go as she apologized when she arrived.
After that, I haven't seen her, and that was in November - every time i tried to see her she would bail on me to go to her friends place ori just wouldnt hear from her.
I brought it up with her a couple of weeks ago, and said to her i missed her and wanted to see more of her but felt like she'd become a bit absent and asked if everything was okay, and she BLEW! UP!
Insulting me, telling me she was just living her life and she didnt deserve this, how dare i try and make her feel bad for living her life...it went on.she completely unleashed and when i told her i wasnt having a go at her i just missed her, she told me to go and F myself and asked to be taken out of the bridal party..so i decided to leave her alone to cool off, then yesterday after sending her 4 messages that were left ignored she sent both my fiance' and i abusive messages and then, sent me fiance a message trying to turn him against me and that she had 'proof' of how much of a piece of shhh i am (My fiance has seen all our message exchanges and was left fuming by her behaviour)
He told her that whatever was going on in her life, i didnt deserve what she was doing and if she couldnt be nice to me to leave me alone so she sent us both a message to go kill ourselves and that she wantedo ut of the bridal party....its been a fun 24 hours!
ANYWAY - I am fine with her not being in the bridal party, or in my life for that matter, i tend not to surround myself with awful people and this was just too much, but i'm at a loss, there are other friends i would have loved to be my bridesmaid but i didnt have enough space, and i'm wanting to know if i can ask another girl to be one...i don't see it as a replacement but do not want anyone to feel like they are a 'second' choice.
Any advice would be amazing on what i can do from here, i am exhausted and emotional and have no idea what to do!
xoxo Soon to be Mrs O
