My cousin invited my ex-husband to her wedding

I'm in the minority here. But presumably, when you were married to him, you encouraged them to think of him as part of the family. That doesn't end just because you get divorced--particularly if they're in a position to see him regularly.

My kids are now 35 and 36, but I still see my ex when they invite both of us for the same activity. If you're not uncomfortable with him and he's not causing you anxiety, I would just go and not worry about it.

I think you are justified to decline your invite if it makes you feel uncomfortable. I do think, however, that if they wanted to invite him they also have that right, particularly if they have a current relationship with him. For people not directly in the situation (like yourself and your ex husband) time may have also softened the situation to your cousin. I'm not saying what he did was right, but after 10 years and their continued relationship, they may just not have thought it was a big deal to extend an invite. After all, divorced couples of mutual friends are often both invited to important milestones like weddings. And unless you've communicated in the past to your cousin that you'd rather she not continue to be his friend out of support, she probably didn't think it would be an issue. Including your daughter on his invite also makes me feel she just felt you were both people they want there. You don't have to go, but I wouldn't be upset at her choice of guest.

You're children are family members, and he's their father who they see on a regular basis. I also wouldn't attend an event that my ex was attending, so I get it, but I don't think it's inappropriate that he was invited.

I think your cousin not inviting your significant other and inviting your ex are two separate issues. I completely agree that couples should be invited together and I understand not wanting to attend without your boyfriend.

I am having trouble understanding why you would cut off all contact with your cousin because she invited your ex, though. This is someone she has a current relationship with and you yourself have said you're not uncomfortable being around him. But maybe you're not that close with your cousin, in which case you have double the reason not to travel for her wedding.

Yeah, I honestly missed that part. Not inviting your SO of 5 years is not cool. I wouldn't be going either just over that part, much less adding in the ex.

The huge issue I see with this is her not inviting your partner. SUPER rude. For that simple reason alone, I wouldn't go to the wedding. However, she is in control of her guest list and if she still cares and has love for your ex, she really can if she wants to. But yeah, for me I wouldn't go to a wedding where they want me to celebrate their union, but I can't bring my other half. Incredibly rude.

I agree. My parents are divorced my mom has become closer to my dad's brother and wife than he ever was - they're hosting our engagement party and my dad will stop by but likely not stay the entirety. Definitely not the most courteous to not invite your SO but at the end of the day, they've obviously formed a relationship with the ex and it's their wedding, their guest list.