My daughters role in our wedding

Also, when my fiancé proposed, he gave her a family necklace and asked her "if he could marry her mom" before proposing to me. She is a major part of both of our lives. He has stepped up and become the best father figure to her!!

We are thinking about a couple of things. My daughter will be 8 1/2 when we get married and we started dating when she was 2 1/2. Sand ceremony where all 3 of us pour sand into the jar. FH presenting her with a necklace before we do our vows/rings. Incorporating more family wording into our vows...things like that!

Edit: My kiddo kept the proposal a secret for almost a month before FH proposed! Only FH and her knew about it! She was also present for the actual proposal

My daughter has such a big mouth that he didn't tell her haha... but she was present for ours and incorporated into it when he proposed (to both of us) at Disney World!

I've read a lot about this. Most things I've read say to make sure, whatever you do, don't ask the kids a question. You may get an answer during the ceremony you don't want.

I watched an episode of Four Weddings the other day. The couple gave their adult children rings during the cemerony. It was very beautiful.

Instead of doing the unity candle where u and ur groom jus do it. U can include her by doin sand have each of u do a different color and than pour it into one vase.

I like the sand ceremony...I have looked into that. I am just always looking for creative things.

I was at a wedding where the groom did two sets of vows, one to the bride and one to the children, and in his vows to the children he promised to take care of their mom and to be there for them, etc. It was really sweet. His vows to the kids were more tear-jerking than to the wife! But it was still very much about the couple.

We plan to involve my daughter in our wedding a lot. We're going to do the sand ceremony and let her have her own color sand. She's also going to be the flower girl and when we exchange rings we're going to give her a ring or necklace or something too and include her in our vows as well. It would be cute to give her her own title like a Jr bride or something.

My son & Father are walking me down the aisle...

FH and I will do the standard vows - but we are looking for an officiant that will do a second part that will be a "family" vow of sorts....where we all take each other as our family and blah blah blah

Then when we get introduced it will be "Introducing for the first time Mr & Mrs P and their son Nathan" -- although that is confusing because no one knows my son's father (not my FH) so it could get a few looks but nothing we aren't prepared for.

My future son will be 14 at our wedding and he is the best man. Could she be an honorary MOH?

Oh I love the introduction of us And THEIR daughter!!!

Also as far as her title right now I have her as an "honorary bridal attendant" but I am looking for something unique...

You can do vows that you and FH say to your daughter together, like We promise to love you, to be there for you, to listen, to protect you. That sort of thing, maybe even present her with a bracelet after the vows. & the their daughter part sounds cute.

This is against the grain of this thread, but i am not a fan of vows to or from children. to me it seems icky - the children are NOT committing themselves to their future step parent. Also, what happens if the marriage breaks down? is it the child's fault? becuase the couple is the one who broke their vows even if the child keeps theirs

my future step daughter is a jr. bridesmaid and nothing more

How about having the officiant ask "Who accompanies this woman to this marriage?" And then your daughter can either answer "Me or I do" or if she is too shy for that raise her hand

I agree with that 100% Kate! I did toss around the idea of including our children but after reading and tossing it around in my head I decided it wasn't fair to them. They each have another parent (not always the case but is in our case) and we are taking the vows to one another. Our children will grow up to be a product of the love we share.

My daughter is 11 and will be a jr bridesmaid, my son is 6 and will be the ring bearer and my future step son is 11 he will be a jr groomsmen.

My daughter will be 9 at our wedding, she's our Jr MOH. My 11yr old son is the Jr BestMan

I have two daughters (7 and 9) and FH has a 12 year old son. They are our bridal party, BM, MOH and Flowergirl We are also going to do a sand ceremony using and hourglass that we can keep in the family room!

Yea I don't think I like the "vows" to kids/from kids. I do like the sand ceremony and incorporating her. So many decisions in a wedding!

My daughter is 9 and she will be my Junior Bride - like my Mini Me. We are going to have her join us in the Unity Candle to signify we are all one family.

You could call her your "mride" for "mini bride".