I am at a loss for words. I have previously posted about some wedding drama regarding my family's lack of interest or support in my wedding because of some of the decisions we made around planning and who would be in the wedding party or on the guest list. But I was not expecting the torture that I had to endure during my wedding weekend.
My parents stood me up at the rehearsal dinner and convinced my sister and her family to also not go to the rehearsal dinner, lied and said that I had not invited my family at all when this was not true, I had just not invited extended family (aunts/cousins/etc). I was devastated and when my husband called them to get an explanation they gave some b.s. excuse that they were on family vacation and wanted to use the time to go out to dinner with the whole entire family instead. They were fully aware my in-laws had already paid for everyone and they would not get this money back. They were fully aware how upset I was. Yet they still didn't show.
They did not come over to help us get ready before the wedding. They missed hair/makeup, they missed parent gift exchanges. They missed our first look photos and the surprise zoom call I had set up for my husband's family in Europe that could not attend the wedding.
They did not show up before the ceremony for our scheduled family photos with the photographer and videographer. They almost missed the ceremony because they wouldn't get on the shuttle transportation that we paid for and my coordinator had to get the hotel to physically go room-to-room to get them on the buses so they could arrive in time. I honestly don't think they were planning on coming because half of them showed up in whatever they were wearing that day (think beach clothes, kid's outdoor play outfits, flip flops, etc) to a semi-formal wedding.
They brought an extra random person who was not invited that wore jeans and a t-shirt to the wedding and they all got plastered drunk at the open bar. I was absolutely humiliated and just in total shock at their behavior. Then they all left early before send-off because they were too drunk to stay later.
I have never been so horrified or treated so badly and I am just in shock that it came from my own family. I don't know if we will ever be okay again, I am so broken-hearted by it all. To make it worse I found out from another guest that stayed at the hotel block that it was all coordinated. The clothes, not showing up to events, purposefully trying to embarrass me at my own wedding just to piss me off. I have a hard time imagining myself ever forgiving or forgetting this. Never in my life has someone been mean to me like this on purpose and by the end of the night I felt so detached from them all that I wished they weren't there. Everything else about my wedding was absolutely a dream, it really was. But this is what I remember and I hate them for it.
