My family doesnt want me to get married

Did they say what their concerns were with you getting married?

I know this probably won’t be what you want to hear but you need to start having reasonable expectations of your family members. If they’re toxic like you say, you getting married won’t change that. Some people just can’t be happy for others. If they’re expressing serious concerns, maybe you could hear them out.

View Quoted Comment Yeah my mom was like your fiancé doesnt look like he is getting involved in the planning , he doesnt look happy , you should get married ( my fiancé runs 2 bussiness and works from 7am-7pm lol he cant really help out planning even if he wants too ! The problem is she never see him i dont understand why she keeps saying that too me ) i also have a child with him 😊

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I agree with this. It's sad (of course!) but you can't change people. At this point, you are only hurting yourself by maintaining your expectations about receiving support from them. Focus on the sources of support you do have and just look forward to your wedding.

View Quoted Comment If their only complaint is that he isn't helping plan the wedding, I would stop giving them information about the wedding plans. If they're going to be negative, then they only need to know the time, date, and location. They don't need to know how the meeting with the florist went, or what dress you chose, or what options you're considering for a guest book. If this behavior is out of character for them, maybe express that to them, and hear what they have to say. It's possible that they have legitimate concerns that they haven't shared with you yet. Otherwise, if this is always how they've been, I would just ignore it and stop talking about the wedding with them.

Honestly, my advice is for you to drop your expectations of what you would love from your family during this exciting time in your life because every time they don’t meet these expectations it’s only hurting you and ruining your experience. I know it has to suck and hurt but share your wedding excitement with the ones who do support you and who are supportive. Take your bridesmaid of honor dress shopping with you talk to your dad and for everyone else that’s giving you grief just give them the day of the wedding information and where they need to be and what time. Protect your peace.

View Quoted Comment Thanks so much 😊 you right thanks for for the feedback 😊 😊 this made my day !