My family isn’t excited about my engagement

Get used to the idea that no one will be as excited for your wedding as you and your fiance. Some family and friends may be happy and show their excitement, but unfortunately, what you have described is far more common. Don't take it personally. Enjoy this new phase of your life and share your excitement with your fiance.

My mom isn't a get excited person either! I am soooo excited and all she has said is don't waste your money (on the wedding day) and you guys are practically married anyway why don't you just go to the court house. I basically had to FORCE my mom to go dress shopping with me and she hated it. It is not that she is not excited about the marriage just the wedding day. So i lean on friends that are excited to help with stuff, and tell my mom little updates. It is disappointing though because I have a friend and her mom wants to be part of everything (picking dress, picking venue, etc.)... It is okay I know she will be happy the day of!

I would just go on planning like you would, and not include your family until they show the interest/desire to be included. Hoping for other people to want to plan/be excited/be involved/etc. leaves you more open to be hurt, especially for a wedding that is more than a year away. I'd just start planning you & your fiance for now!

That's a rough situation. Is there any reason your family would not be excited? What is their relationship like with your fiancee?

You might also look at how they reacted when other family members got engaged, like any cousins or other extended family members. Maybe your family just isn't that into weddings, or maybe they have some concerns that what you want isn't realistic with your budget and they don't want to hurt your feelings. Are these well-research suggestions you've been making or just off-the-cuff thoughts?

I would just take some time to reflect and see if you think there is a bigger concern you're missing, or if you family just really doesn't do weddings. If its the latter, maybe you could recruit a friend to be your go-to person for wedding planning?

Did she seem fond of your fh before your engagement? If she did, she could feel like shes losing you in a way. Maybe give a few weeks without bringing it up and then approach the subject again. When you do, just explain how excited you are and ask for specific ideas, if that's what you want, like "what flowers do you think would be nice?" That way the you'll change your mind answer doesn't really work.

I know it sucks because I’m honestly in the same boat.

NO ONE is as excited as you are. I know you think they should be but they just aren’t.

My mom literally fell asleep on the couch 🛋 as I was trying on dresses. You want to talk about crushing?

You just have to learn to not let them affect you.

Congratulations 🎈🎉🍾🎊 on your big day!

I'm sorry this happened to you :/

There could be so many reasons why your family is acting this way. Is there a reason they dislike your FH? Are your parents divorced? That can sour some people on the idea of marriage. Is your family financially dependent on you? Maybe they are afraid of losing you / your support.

These are just a few guesses but the bottom line is I'm sure they love you and you just have to live with the fact that they're not excited.

You on the other hand should be pumped to start wedding planning! I definitely would limit what you tell your family about planning though because it sounds like they're not supportive and you will just set yourself up to get upset when they don't give you the support you're looking for,

Congrats on the engagement and happy planning!

I am a mom of 4 adult children with my youngest getting married in November. Each parent is different and their responses are not a reflection of you but their entire life experience. I am divorced twice, and so is her father. I am involved totally with this wedding. I am the wedding planner, go to all appts, etc. Hwr father just want to know where to show up and at what time. Her future in laws have no desire to know anything except the date and time. I have watched family members get married and noticed that the reaction you are receiving is normal. Not everyone will want to hear every detail, go dress shopping, etc. I do understand how hurt you are so I would suggest speaking. To your mom and explaining how you are feeling. Could she also think that if she seems happy, wants to help plan, or anything like that that you would ask for money? I ask this a if she cannot afford to help with the wedding that could be why she is withholding emotions.