Hello
This is such a touchy topic right now for me and I can't stop crying. I know there are many opinions that will be on this topic, but I will just start.
I fell in love with an immigrant from Europe and we have been together almost two years in Jan. We would have liked to have a longer waiting time to get married, but due to the process with documentation we both though the sooner the better as we continue our relationship and get ready to start a family. So we applied for our marriage application early this month and started getting things ready. We picked the soonest date for the courthouse so we can get things started and even speak with a place for dinner for close family and friends.
My family knows his situation as well. They however keep asking me why so soon. I am not pregnant or anything it is honestly pretty straight forward. I explained everything to them and the past two weeks I have done nothing, but cry over and over. This man actually makes me feel safe emotionally and mentally , but it just feels like they don't really care or as supportive. I considered eloping just in private just me and him, because I was scared of this. in particular my sister is upset because it is 4 days before her birthday and when I told everyone she at first said congrats and then said right after that its by her birthday and started asking how they would make that work every year with my anniversary. I was taken back by that, because my wedding all of a sudden became about her. She also has her own issues as well I know she's dealing with her relationship too and I am also trying to be supportive for her since it was an abusive situation. Moving forward to today, she sent a text to the family and said she plans to celebrate her birthday 9-16 to 9-18.
Side note: Not sure if it matters, but I was previously engaged but it ended in 2020