My Father is ill but also super controlling

My father is a very difficult person to love. We have a strained relationship, at least on my part. He’s been incredibly controlling all my life and not very kind. I wouldn’t be upset if he did not attend my wedding, but since he is my father we have changed some of our wants so he can attend. He has so many health issues it prevents him from doing most things. We wanted a destination wedding, but he can’t fly, so we opted for a venue locally. He is not paying for the wedding, so we have chosen a garden venue so we won’t have to spend money on flowers. Plus the garden venue is within our budget. He can’t be outside in the heat so we chose a 10:30 time slot to accommodate his health issues. We would have rather been married in the evening, but he also needs to be in bed by 2 pm. Last night he texted me that he was not happy with an outdoor wedding in June. Due to his health, it would be too hot for him. I told him we’ve already made changes to what we originally wanted to accommodate his health issues. We’ve already paid our deposit and I just ordered the invites. I told him I understood if he couldn’t make it. He emailed me this morning with a long dramatic guilt- laced email about his health and how I hurt him deeply and that he needed peace in his life and he wanted me to be that peace 🙄. [Sorry, we shouldn’t look to others to supply our happiness or our peace. That comes from within.] Basically he wants me to cancel everything and have our wedding ceremony in his living room because that’s what works for him. Am I a horrible daughter for wanting the wedding that I want even if he can’t be there? He’s been pretty awful to all of us our whole lives. He’s disowned my sister for over a year now due to her boyfriend because he couldn’t control her and make her break up with him. By the way, we are in our 40’s! I refuse to be controlled by my father, especially on my FH’s and my wedding day! I knew I should’ve done the destination wedding!