My FI and I are getting married in February. We are both 26 and recently finished grad school programs. My parents are divorced. My mom has been on SSDI due to a spinal cord injury for many years now and can't contribute financially to the wedding. My dad remarried and has three kids with his second wife and was able to contribute a bit to the wedding. My FI's father is in much better financial situation and he stepped in to help give a big financial contribution to the wedding which we are grateful for. FI's mother died when he was a teenager.
I admit that I have been heavily planning the wedding with help from my mom. My mom due to her disability uses a wheelchair. I like picking her up and getting her out of the house to tour venues and talk with vendors with FI and I. My parents have become friends with FFIL and communicate via text and on Facebook. My mom had been texting pictures and samples of invitations and other weddings to my dad and FFIL.
On Saturday, FFIL went over to my FI's apartment and he said he feels left out of the wedding and that he feels like being cast aside in my favor of my mom. FFIL also stated that he is quite saddened and understandably so because FFIL's mom isn't here. FFIL told my FI that he doesn't want to feel like a guest at the wedding and that he fears that he will end up being an afterthought at the wedding and in our lives going forward. FFIL has told FI that he's disappointed that FI no longer sees him as a parent figure.
I don't want to FFIL to hurt because he's just as important as my side of the family. I'm unsure of how to include him.