My fh thinks $4k each is too much each to pay for our wedding, thoughts?

My fiance and I are both contributing 4k to our wedding. It is doable, but it just takes a lot of planning to find the best prices and to do the most for your buck. An idea on how to save it without feeling like you are living paycheck to paycheck is to start a fund where you each contribute a specific amount each paycheck. This way you will raise the amount without the pain.

$8k is doable - but if he doesn't feel comfortable spending his half/money on it I wouldn't force him. My FH paid for his and his groomsmens attire ... I'm paying for the rest of the wedding. Take your budget, divide by the months until the wedding and put that amount of money in an account every month. I agree that $30k+ weddings aren't a must and it's not worth going into debt over a wedding - especially if it isn't your first. Shop around, get lots of prices/quotes.

Costs for small parties add up! For me knowing how much m grandma's funeral was put things in perspective for me. We had to buy food, a tent, and alcohol. For a wedding you are also adding in attire and postage. I think what is reasonable depends on the couple and will vary a LOT. I do think thinking about what kind of part you want, and comparing it to costs of other parties you have had, could be a good place to gain some context. Heck, throw in the average cost of weddings in the US for reference as well

Wet set our limit at $7.5k, also with the logic of using that money for travel or practical things. I'm REALLY glad we went that way because overall the wedding was just one day, and while it was fun, it wasnt worth more than that to us. We had joint finances as soon as we got engaged so it wasnt one person pay for different pieces. We did an all-inclusive venue for 50 people within that budget, so it's doable! It just depends on the area where you want the wedding to be. Some areas are way cheaper.

Unless you family is paying the don’t get any say in your wedding. It is up to you and your fiancé how you want it to be.

Kind of in the same boat - second marriage but a first wedding for me, 3rd marriage and wedding for my fiance. We both wanted a very small wedding, he more so than me since I never had a wedding. We debated on whether to get married on the beach but then decided it would be cheaper to do something in town where family can show up instead of on the beach and just a handful of people. The cost adds up, we are having a small wedding (about 25 people) but we are also looking at about $8k once it's all said and done. Even though things started out cheap with an all-inclusive ceremony with music, florals, officiant, cake. There are a lot of little details that add up. But $8k is doable depending on the size and location of your wedding.

It's doable. My budget is 3k for 100 people, luckily i'm a creative budget person. It's a second marriage for both of us. Our budget was 5k, but we decided to lower it so we can save for a house after we're married.

Ours is both our second marriage. I did not do a wedding the first time around, but he did. Ours will be smaller than his first and luckily my dad is helping out with it as well. We are both picking up the little things and odds and ends. We sat down and went over what he is okay with paying for and me. Anything else that I want to purchase, I just buy myself since he looks at most of this stuff as not practical.

I would say you need to talk with him about how much he thinks is fair for him. If you are okay with picking up the rest (if you can afford it), then you can if you want that day. However, you have to make sure that you are comfortable with it and not going to hold it against him later on.