My fiance and me could be fired over taking a honeymoon!

My fiance & I*

Okay, so: if you live in the US, unfortunately, there is no law protecting you on this EXCEPT if there is an employee handbook. You need to read the policy in the handbook. If you follow the policy, then it is illegal for them to fire you because of it.

Alternately, I suggest not working for a company that treats you so poorly.

I would definitely take the shorter HM. It isn't worth the trouble of losing your jobs. You have the rest of your lives to spend together.

I took the week off before and week off after and basically can't miss any more days. My maternity leave is pretty baller though, 4 months fully paid. Makes me want to have a kid every year. Perks of working in a male dominated industry I suppose.

ETA treats them so poorly? It sounds like they're being pretty cool about everything. I know most people who joined a company within a year have very strict vacation policies.

I think you are being over-dramatic, a little spoiled and immature. Be thankful you have a job and don't lose it over a vacation.

Emmy, I'm wondering about the maturity as well. She's obviously not too familiar with corporate America. I'm wondering if this is her first job.

Wow.... even taking two weeks off accrued is not really something I know anyone does in my company if they haven't been there for a while because of the nature of our work. If you don't have that many days off and your boss doesn't okay it, even though it would be unpaid time I would be shocked if you had jobs after.

Don't risk your job for it, especially if you don't even have the time accrued and you're so new.

But I have to say, I'm surprised most people are saying they can't take 2-3 weeks off even if they have the time. I definitely thought it was normal for people to do that. Not that I ever have.

I had a job that would not approve any vacation above and beyond what you had earned even if it was unpaid.

ETA: I would just shorten your honeymoon

If you recently started at your jobs, there is no way that you have that much vacation built up. I think you need to reevaluate that, while your wedding/honeymoon should be a wonderful and magical time- you still have to come back to reality when you're done and it's important to have jobs when you come back.

Shorten your honeymoon and don't bring this back up again. Let it go.

Also, your boss makes a decent point- both of you are new and if the company realizes that it runs just as well when you're gone as it does when you're there- then there's no reason for them to keep you on the payroll. He did you a solid by giving you that heads up.

3 weeks is a ton of time to take off. I have been at my company for 7 years and I am taking 2 weeks off. No one cares but 3 weeks being a relatively new employee is way too much . Take the week and be content, that is plenty.

I am taking two weeks off for my wedding and honeymoon combined, but I gave them the dates upfront when I was hired in February and it is also unpaid because I obviously don't have that much time saved up yet. Unfortunately, the U.S. sucks regarding vacation time. If you are set on going for three weeks, take unpaid time (if they will let you). Employers are only going to be so flexible. Hope you guys can work something out.

At my job you can accrue PTO and use it up to two weeks without issue, you just have to request is and get it approved in advance. If you finagle your schedule right, like front load the week before, take off two weeks, and work the tail end of the last week, you could technically take 3 weeks. But my job is flexible like that.

If you may lose your job, I'd first look up what your company's policy is on vacation time. And then from there, just shorten your honeymoon.

And, no response from OP

PTO should be negotiated prior to accepting your job, same as salary. I started with my new company last December and I get 4 weeks off per year vacation, 2 weeks, sick leave, 16 volunteer hours, and all bank holidays. I am taking less PTO this year and carrying over a week and a half to add to my 4 weeks so that I can take off time before and after the wedding and for our HM which will be 10 days a couple months after the wedding. However, I went into my company letting them know about my wedding so if they didn't want to allow for the time they had the option to not hire me. There are great companies out there! And not all US jobs and policies suck. If you take a job that doesn't allow for vacation then that's the choice you make. But rule is if you don't have it earned then you can't take it and I think that is pretty standard. However, my company allows you to purchase extra vacation time so that could be something you look into and then try to shoot for 2 weeks instead of 3.