My fiance cheated 5 weeks b4 wedding! Help

The fact that he touched another woman is cheating.. bottom line

Not to forget that he was saving the pictures... for what? Remembering his last romp? Why would yuo save this kind of thing? That's disturbing just as much as him touching and maybe going further with this woman! Who's to say he is not still in touch with this woman?!

Run honey, it probably was not his first time doing something like this and it wont be his last!

"Run Forrest, run". In all seriousness, RUN. This is such a crappy situation, sorry to hear

There's no freaking way a man wouldn't screw a naked woman if she's willing to take pix of her like you mentioned, there's just no way... unless he's gay. This child is sick, if he isn't doing everything in his power to get you back or apologize or you name it... you need to turn around & say byebye. Sorry, I'm very blunt. GL sweetie.

Thank your lucky stars you caught this before you guys got married. Run the other way and don't look back. Your life will be much better without him and you *will* find someone who deserves your love... Hold that head up high' mkay?

READ WHAT YOU WROTE! GIRL YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT....RUN FAR AND FAST. YOU WILL BE HAPPY WITH THAT DECISION WHEN YOU MEET THE REAL MAN OF YOUR DREAMS.

XOXO SORRY FOR THIS HAPPENING TO YOU, I CAN'T IMAGINE GOING THROUGH SOMETHING LIKE THAT. I WISH YOU THE BEST.

Once a cheater always a cheater... nothing changes dating, engaged, married... he is still the same person!

Golden, I think you're pretty unwelcome here. It's not "funny" and your explanation for not believing in marriage is an atrocious, impossible-to-decipher, load of crap. To the original poster, I am sorry this has happened to you - there are plenty of upstanding, moral men in the world who are capable of being monogamous with a partner they love (I do understand, with the way men are programmed, it can be difficult at times...but good men try, and most succeed). Don't waste your time, and your emotions, on someone who doesn't have the backbone to either pass up the "opportunity" or who didn't come to you afterwards, truly remorseful. Don't forgive him until you see some growth in maturity or true sorrow.

I would run as fast as I can. If he didn't respect you or your relationship before the marriage then what's stopping him from respecting it after you say your vows. Don't forgive get away as fast as you can.

Snaps is right, Golden... completely uncalled for.

Seriously golden why are you bringing this up on this poor girls post and if you hate weddigns so much y are u on here?...kate im so sorry...i can not imagine how you feel! your lucky you found out now...idk it may be me but i would make sure everyone knows y the weddings off! You will find someone who loves you and respects you way more than this a**.

I agree- Golden that was really mean.. I am already crying every day about it...

THANKS SO MUCH EVERYONE!! Those who still have something to say, keep the posts coming. Every post I read is more affirmation

Love you all !!

Wow I am so sorry but so glad you found out before hand. He has no respect for you and never will. You deserve so much better and trust me he is out there waiting for you! Keep your beautiful head up and put this behind you. Let him have his little hussy he doesnt even deserve you.

Honestly, his "explanation" just makes it worse, as far as I'm concerned. If he'd said, "Oh, I am so sorry, I was completely drunk and my best friend asked me to do it and I just wasn't thinking straight," then maybe there is room for negotiation. But, "I thought it was ok to cheat, so long as we weren't yet married," indicates that he still doesn't see what he did wrong, other than getting caught.

2nd says it so well. I mean

1. he takes the pictures

2. in his house that he was going to be sharing with you

3. it's his last thrill??? yea, right

What he did is unforgivable. I hope we're all making you feel better. Stay strong, positive, surrounded by your true loved ones & eventually the pain will go away.

2d is right.... Golden needs to go to hell. That's BS and there is no reason for Golden to be on here with a wedding date and bashing weddings. Mods need to boot whom ever that is.

BTW, I wasn't implying the 2n said she should go to hell, lol.. sorry if it looks like that

Oh honey I am so sorry.

I have a different perspective than everyone else on here. As I've alluded to, FH and I have had some issues. Maaaaaaajor issues. I don't want to go into the extent of it but he cheated and I stayed. I'm glad I did because I love him so much, we've just changed how our relationship works. Since monogamy is not his thing, it's not fair for me to force him into it. He now only sleeps with girls I approve of - for me the issue was not the infidelity, it was the gross whores he was choosing so we've fixed that problem. Yes it's hard, but it's worth it.

Now, in your situation I truly believe it was wedding nerves, his 'last chance at freedom'. Should you forgive him? Hell no. But don't consider a reconsiliation out of the question if you truly love him. He doesn't sound like a serial cheater but he may do it once or twice. What most people don't know is that statistically, 50 per cent of married partners cheat at some point. (cont.)

It's a very sad but true fact. Maybe he got his out of the way early.

I'm probs going to get flamed for this, I realise. But I stand by what I've said.

Catherine, if that's how your relationship works then so be it. I wouldn't stay but again, if it works, if works. Like FS keeps saying, guys just want to keep putting their stuff out there to make sure they have kids (something along the lines of that). Meaning naturally, humans are not monogamous which is a true statement... I hate it but it's true. It takes a strong man to "stay".

I'm sorry you are going through this. IMO I say it's time for you to walk away. You deserve someone who loves you and will cherish you as such. It wasn't a cheap last thrill..that was just the explanation he thought would cause you to back off. Believe it or not, there are men out there who will treat you like the princess you are. Yes, marriage has to be worked at and there will be many opportunities that come his way but he has to be able over come them and for him to say it just fell in his lap, not cool. Life has better things to offer and you deserve all of them. Take a day...get your mind together and focus on you and what you have to offer. Write down the kind of man that deserves you. Take care of YOU for a little while until the Real man for you shows up. It will be hard but hang out with the girls, take neices and nephews out (if you have any), get a hobby etc. and find something you love. Concentrate on what you want out of a relationship because if you don't know

What YOU WANT...you can seemingly settle for anything. You deserve the best...let him and the world know that you have respect for yourself and you DEMAND the same from anyone else.