My fiance just said he doesn't care about the wedding

FH isn't crazy into planning, he just wants to be married. But he has never told me he didn't care about the wedding.

Never said he didn't care. He just wasn't into planning it. I did a majority of the planning.

DH didn't care about the wedding at all. He cares about the marriage, which is what's important to him.

ETA: He never said he didn't care, but I never pushed him into doing anything.

They never care. I wouldn't get worked up unless he says he doesn't care about marrying you. It's not weird for a guy to not care about a party.

My FH doesn't care about the whole process either but never said he doesnt care about the wedding. I prefer to plan without him anyway. Maybe its the stress? Men handle it different sometimes

DH told me on a daily basis that he was so ready for this "wedding bullshit" to be over. I didnt take offense. He was ready for marriage and wanted the money spending to be over!

Oh man, that sucks, big time! Sorry to hear that!! =( FH doesn't care about anybody the planning stuff, but he has never said that!!

Don't take it personally, hon. FH has taken to talking regularly about how we should have just had a tiny destination wedding and had it over with. That or eloped in Vegas. He really couldn't care less about all the etiquette red tape and the hassles that come along with a big formal wedding. (.....which I, on the other hand, have been dreaming of my whole life haha.)

I know it is hard to hear that, especially from him, but I think that is more common with grooms than you would think. My FH is not into the whole wedding thing, and has said on more than one occasion that we should have just gone to the courthouse. Weddings are the couple's day, but TBH in most cases it is really more for the bride and the families and friends. Guys don't generally like big parties, spending lots of money on parties, getting dressed up, having their picture taken, etc...

Especially now that you are so close to your date, he may just be ready to get it over with. That is not to say that he doesn't care about you, or about marrying you, but he may just not be nearly as excited as you for the actual wedding itself. I have done 90% of the planning too, I understand where you are coming from, but I haven't had FH brag about putting in a lot of effort into it, that would annoy me too. As far as him blowing up on you and saying that no one cares but you, that is not true. He is likely just upset, and I imagine the closer you get to the date, the more tense things get. We are just under 3 months out and planning is starting to pick up. I am needing FH to clear some time for wedding stuff, and he would much rather be out riding his motorcycle or playing his Xbox I am sure. That is just how most guys are. Let him chill out and see how things are from there, I am sure you guys will be fine, keep your head up

Mine doesn't care until he wants to disagree with something, like music and doilies.

My FH is not into the planning. I pretty much do it all, I do ask his opinion before making some decisions. His contribution is his wallet.

Mine is more into it than I am. I would have probably eloped, but he is really excited by the details, and that makes me like it a lot more.

My FH is pretty much the same as everyone else's. It's not that he doesn't care about the wedding, they just don't care as much as we do. When I ask him about his opinions, all he pretty much say is 'whatever you want'. I think that's just what men do.. I had to do and plan everything also, don't take it too hard.

Amen! @Danielle D

I think, if I'd asked DH, that's what he would have said. For whatever reason (society, hormones, whatever), in general, women are much more invested in the party (and let's face it-- a wedding is usually 90% about the party and 10% about actually getting married) than men. I know it's frustrating-- you want him to want it cause you want it, it feels like, if he's not into the wedding he's not into the marriage. And they are really two separate things. If you are feeling overwhelmed, instead of trying to overwhelm him, too, cut back on your plans. Skip the runners, chair decorations, centerpieces, programs-- whatever is stressing you out (aside from the license and officiant) is totally superfluous, and you can let it go and be just as married at the end of the day.

Such a sigh of relief. Thanks for all the love and support, ladies!

It just really hurt to hear that and to feel that all my efforts were overlooked.

Having read all these responses has made me feel so much better! The burrito I'm eating right now has helped too. LOL

FH doesn't care about the wedding at all. He hates being the center of attention and would much rather have eloped. Even though it's only 75 people you'd think we were having 300! It's "all over the top and a 3 ring circus" You are so not alone.

He still says we should elope! I've done pretty much all the planning he's just had to get addresses for me and I'll ask him what he thinks of something. He doesn't really care as long as I'm keeping it in budget!

Then elope.

My FH hasn't said that, but he really isn't interested in the planning process. Unless he's complaining about the cost lol. I basically just choose vendors, ask him to show up at meetings occasionally, and get his signature on contracts when needed. That's the extent of it for the most part.