My fiancé’s parents are avoiding our wedding

Families can be difficult. I understand. The best thing you can do is continue on with what you want to do and don't expect anything from them. Do the right thing, offer thoughts, ask questions if you need to know what they think, be cordial, but don't get hurt when they dismiss. This is a reflection on them and not you. People are FAR more 'judgey' then I ever thought possible, even jealous. I always thought adults are supposed to act like them, but alas, they all don't.

Try not to compare your experiences with someone else. That's a sure fire way to always feel bad about yourself. Everyone has different paths and different experiences. We just have to make the best of the ones WE have. Good Luck and hang in there!

They don't sound like they're avoiding your wedding; they sound like they're not interested in being part of planning your wedding, which is perfectly fine. Just stop trying to involve them in wedding details and don't expect them to do more than show up at the wedding as honored guests.

Covid cost many people a lot of income, including invested or retirement funds, and interest.
Their reasons for offering less and less each year may be that they have less (which is not your business, not to tell you), c while your family has had fewer losses. You should not judge that your family cares that his family cares less based on gifts. You have had 2 years more to save. Do you now have enough for catering now that you have had two more years ? And now have money for cake ?¹They may expect:. Must FIL I have known, only the MIL has actually done any actual work toward planning or getting anything. Your expectations seem to be the biggest things. You take their lack of money to be lack of support,, lack of praise given to you to be little support. But does it occur to you that most IL behave this way? Or that most brides are thrilled when IL do not push themselves in on ever little thing? I don't see it. I was so happy my parents and his stayed out of things, except an opinion when asked. I think you have made up your mind that they are against every thing you want, when there is no sign of anger or hostility there. I hope you do not confront them, because they are doing what many people do, with no bad feeling at all.

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Hello Piper,

Yes I totally agree that it is usually opposite! It's strange being a couple who wants a church celebration while my future in-laws (mostly my ffil) consistently prod for us to just go to the courthouse. It feels disrespectful to our beliefs for him to even mention that. I think it is just him casting his judgement based on what he and my fmil decided to do. Granted, they got married at an older age (she has one son from previous spouse) and eloped at the courthouse. All I am asking is for either of them to act excited for us to be finally getting hitched! Especially after having to postpone last year. :/

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Thank you, Aleann!