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Just Said Yes May 2022

My future in-laws are a nightmare.

Morgan, on July 31, 2022 at 8:24 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4
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Our wedding is less than three weeks away. This will be our second attempt, we had to postpone it the first time because my brother was in a nearly fatal car accident earlier this year, (One month before our original date) and thank God he will be okay! My MIL has done nothing but try to make this as complicated as possible for us. They have asked me if they could wear white, my MIL backed out of helping us with rehearsal dinner at last minute because she “didn’t want to deal with it anymore,” and many other things. She threw a fit about our wedding the first time because we did not wish to invite a bunch of her friends that neither of us had ever even met. We relented and invited some people to appease her, but now that we have moved our date, she and my SIL added a bunch new people to the guest list without ever telling us they were invited and told us they were coming. My FH asked them to please not bring any extra people as we were very clear the first time about being near capacity, and now my SIL has pulled her daughter out of our wedding as the flower girl and is refusing to come because she is not getting her way. We have had so much trouble in planning our wedding and my FH is crushed by this. I’ve kept my mouth shut as long as I can but I am furious with the entitlement and disrespect we have faced from both of them during this entire process. How would you guys handle this? Are we in the wrong?

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Latest activity by Bailey, on August 1, 2022 at 6:55 AM
  • Frederic
    Dedicated October 2024
    Frederic ·
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    Absolutely not are you in thr wrong..... this is y'all day not the guests or even the wedding party!
    This seems to be a trend where outside help try to shape the wedding into their images and not the wishes of the Bride and Groom. I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time but at the end of the day...... remember this is about you and your FH.
    My FW and I are sticking to our plans and ensuring everyone involved understand that this event will be planned by us and anyone that helps is an assist. Stick with your numbers of guests and start thinking of backups when folks pull out for various reasons. Also if need be.... think outside the 📦 and plan around having certain things or people in your wedding. It'll save you alot of stress
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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
    Mrs.evans ·
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    First I would like to apologize that you are going through this. I have heard this many times even on here. Especially when there is some type of financial help from either side of the families. And this just should not be happening that family insert there ppl in the wedding whom you don't know but show up some ppl. And I'm so sorry that you both are dealing with this and not listening to either of you. This is supposed to be a exciting moment for you both I instead ppl see showing that green eyed monster. Moving forward demand to see your guest list and say there is no more ppl are coming. And I know that you both want to be respectable but they are not showing none to either of you take back your wedding
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
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    It's up to your FH to handle her. Until that is done you have a relationship issue, not a FMIL issue.

    If MIL isn't contributing $ to the wedding, she doesn't get to determine the guest list.

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  • Bailey
    Expert October 2023
    Bailey ·
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    While you're definitely affected by this, it really is up to your FH to handle it. If you were to confront her about these issues, you run the risk of increasing the tension that will last far beyond the wedding planning. I can see how emotions in your FH may be running very high right now, but he absolutely needs to sit her and his sister down and explain to them that this is HIS wedding and what they're asking is not reasonable, and their behavior will not be tolerated. Do not let a rogue family member ruin something that you have poured hours, and hours, and HOURS of work into.

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