My future in-laws are both engaged and planning weddings, at the same time my fiance and i are...

Your in-laws are under no obligation to contribute to your wedding, whether in a financial manner or otherwise. Naturally things such as financial contributions are always appreciated but in no case do your in-laws have to contribute to your wedding, regardless of their own weddings.

Beyond this, I don't think their weddings will in any way makes yours less special and I think you just need to focus on yourself and your partner and your wedding. Don't overwhelm yourself by worrying about other people's lives and events.

You've noted your feelings down, take a day or two to decompress and then move on - that is all there is to do here

I get why you feel like you’re feeling. It would seem that the parents should be sending their children off into their marriages, before the parents get remarried. I don’t think they need to contribute financially, but I do think they should let you both have your moment.. since they’ve already had theirs previously. Then once you have gotten married they can have their weddings. That’s how I’d feel.

I get that it doesn't feel as special because there's multiple weddings happening within a small group. I'm sure if it was 2 friends you'd also feel a little bummed. However, no one but you and your fiance are required to assist with anything. Whether that be planning, decorating, and paying. Is this MIL and FIL 2nd marriage each? I feel like if family members could only do one wedding, it would make sense to go to the young couple whose never been married. Considering there's no set dates from either party I'd just let this go for now.

I know it might seem like a lot but it’s okay and everything will be fine. Your MIL & FIL can both have dates within the same month as you and your day will still be special. Don’t dwell on that because their weddings are separate from
yours. Also, as far as contributing financially they technically don’t have to. Neither of our parents helped pay for our wedding and we were okay with it. I wouldn’t be dependent on their money if they haven’t already said they would contribute. Same thing with planning. My mom only send our invitations, because she offered not because I asked. Other than that I did everything on my own. It’s going to be okay. Everything will work out the way it’s supposed to and your wedding will be nice.

While I agree with first poster that nobody is "required" to contribute to your wedding, I completely understand wanting to feel like your loved ones are truly invested in YOUR experience. Being a bride, you want to feel super special and you're not wrong for that.

Emotions aside, it's always a blessing when parents contribute to your wedding financially. But the reality of it is, they don't have to. I have plenty of friends who didn't get married until they were 30+, and because they were established their parents opted not to contribute financially. While I personally won't choose that path (when I have children, eventually), it does make sense. Parents paying for weddings came from a time where KIDS were getting married, not people well into their late 20's and 30's. You can have an incredible and beautiful wedding with what you can afford, and you have plenty of time to save for that. We are having a 2.5 year engagement so we can afford the wedding of our dreams.

But let's look at this in a different light...are the two couples having traditional weddings? If so, now you have two other women to do all the things with! You guys could come together and make this an incredibly special and unique experience if you choose to look at it that way.

Them having their weddings close to yours will not make your day any less special to your family. I promise nobody is going to look at it that way. It will only make it less special for you if you choose to let it bother you! Unless it's the same week as your wedding, I wouldn't even bat an eye.