My future sil is seriously the devil.

Sounds like she's jealous! I dont think you are crazy, my own sisters have been pulling crap like this out.

My sister in law is awesome. My future mother in law... She hates me. Like HATES me. It's been a rough ride. Sorry you're going through this 😞

I'm so sorry you are going through. I got lucky. My husband's sister is seriously amazing. She was one of my bridesmaids because I wanted her to be. She helped plan most of my bridal shower, helped me make a video for the rehearsal dinner of photos with my husband and I growing up, gave me all sorts of advice and was really there for me. She wasn't my maid of honor, but my actual maid of honor did nothing so she might as well of been my maid of honor. My other sister-in-law (my brother's wife) is also really nice. She doesn't help with a lot, but she is still young and had gotten married a few months before us so she her own wedding to plan. She was a great bridesmaid though. It was my sister who was the maid of honor that caused all of the problems. She hated her dress and a week before the wedding got a new one that I bought and my mom paid for the alterations. Then she damaged it the night before the wedding because she tried to throw a cigarette out her car window but it flew to the back of the car where the dress was and burnt the bottom of the dress. My mom also paid for the alterations for the first dress. My sister also spent all of her money on partying so she had no money to pay for anything besides the original dress. She wanted her hair and makeup done, but couldn't afford and complained to my mom and I the morning of the wedding. She didn't really help with anything for the shower so my mom covered my sister's portion of the shower. She did help pay for my meal for my bachelorette party, but she didn't help plan it. Again, I'm so sorry this is happening. I hope clothing for the children to be in the wedding wasn't purchased already. It honestly sounds like she is just being difficult for no reason. I don't think I would count of her actually being a part of your wedding as she sounds unreliable.

I'm so sorry this is happening. I love my FSILs but when I chose a bridal party, they weren't on my mind. We made them ushers so we could have them with us though. They never complained once about not being a bridesmaid. It sounds like yours would complain about everything no matter what you did.

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Oh geez. Your own flesh and blood. I'm sorry!

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Ugh -- my future mother in law hates me too. So I feel your pain on that. We haven't spoken to her since shortly after we got engaged last year.

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Oh my gosh. That sounds like a total nightmare. Gotta love family, right? And we haven't purchased outfits because we had just told SIL and my MOH (whose daughter is also a flower girl) to just have the kids wear something they already had. It wasn't that important to us to have them in specific outfits, thankfully. But we did purchase a wagon that we decorated because MOH's daughter and SIL's youngest are infants -- the older of SIL's daughters was going to pull the wagon. We had practiced with her and everything. She was SO excited to be part of her uncle's wedding. My biggest issue is not the time/money we spent on the wagon/decor...it's that I know my niece is going to be CRUSHED if she thinks that we don't want her in the wedding anymore. It's not fair to her. And ultimately, I look like the bad guy.

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Yeah. I was hoping it would just be easier to put her in since she was complaining. But I think that was a huge mistake honestly.

She sounds like a peach. Sorry you're going through all that. That's horrific. Like why did she even want to be a bridesmaid in the first place?!

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry it turned out that way. I think just keep on your toes regarding her and prepare for the scenarios as best you can. 🍀

I’m sorry you’re going through this. No matter what she does, don’t let it ruin your day! I’m glad FH is also supporting you with this, as sometimes it seems that they turn a bit of a blind eye to their family.

Yikes, i hope there won't be too many more annoyances from her before the wedding

1) I came because of this posts title 😅
2) Your SIL makes MY blood boil!

Is she just jealous her brother is getting married first?? Praying there are no more shenanigans from her 🙏.

Don't let her ruin this for you! This day is about YOU & your FH!

Don't stress. None of these things are going to affect YOUR and your FH day. Flower girls/ring bares are not a huge deal. If they are they, great! If not, great! This is not something to let bother you.

It seems like everything she does is getting to you. Not showing up at a bridal shower is rude, but I am sure you had plenty of friends and family (that you like) there to celebrate with you. So who cares that she didn't show up. That's her problem, not yours.

She seems like she is trying to cause drama, so the best plan is to just ignore it. Focus on you and your FH! You will have an amazing day! There is literally nothing she can do to ruin it (unless you let the little things get to you.

To some people, it’ll always been about them

You’re not. You’re a saint for putting up with her. Honestly at this point I would be stressed enough and frustrated enough that I would kick her out. She literally only wants to be a bridesmaid to stand up there in the day of.

Delete her lol! Like I really wish sometimes we could hit the backspace on people who do stuff like this. Take her out! Your don't need to be stressed and especially not over her! This moment is about you and him. Delete her lol!

Well she sounds like a real treat! LOL... Seriously though I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I would just lower your expectations for her and hopefully that way she can't stress you out anymore. Just expect her to show up.

View Quoted Comment I get what you’re saying, but it’s more than that. She actively tried to get my fiancé to stop dating me. She was upset when we got engaged. She’s rude at every opportunity. And it’s difficult because we are estranged from the rest of his family. So like with the bridal shower...she was the only person from his side who would’ve been there. It made things awkward because everyone knew none of his family was present (we’re a mixed race couple so it’s very apparent). I got asked in front of the whole group “oh is his family doing their own shower for you?” So it’s just uncomfortable.

The flower girl/ring bearer thing wouldnt be a huge deal if we hadn’t already told the kids. Her oldest daughter is old enough that she messages me asking about it (she’s 9 and has fb messenger for kids). She’s going to be super hurt and that’s what bothers me.

View Quoted Comment Girl I wish. She’s the only family my fiancé speaks to so I kind of feel obligated to keep the peace most of the time. I really cannot stand her though.