My groom REFUSES to wear a tux!!! Help!

There is nothing "less formal" about a charcoal gray suit, as long as it is still a 3 piece suit. Just put all the guys in similarly colored outfits, and you should be fine.

Would he compromise by wearing a tux for the ceremony and formal pics and then changing so he could be more comfy for the reception... becuz if everyone is in a tux but him it will look a bit odd in the pics

Its his wedding too so try to find a middle ground

I love me some men in gray suits... maybe you just need a visual...

***I'm not trying to be rude here at all--sorry in advance if it comes out that way***

I'm thinking that you and your FH should have discussed the formality of the wedding prior to making all these plans. If he wants casual and you want very formal there needs to be a compromise.

Let him pick out the suit he wants -- then have all the other GM and your father match him. As long as they are similar it shouldn't matter.

If he doesn't want to do a 3 piece suit -- then perhaps compromise and see if he will wear a 3 piece suit for the ceremony and then he can take off the jacket/vest during the reception to be more comfortable.

This is his wedding too!!!

Are you liking it any better?

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Chelsea Clinton's husband, father, and bridal party wore suits, black suits, and their wedding was as formal as a wedding can be. I believe these days suits are just as popular as tuxes, and isn't charcoal gray almost black, it will be very hard to tell in the pictures.

I'm putting my groom in a gray tux with a straight tie. It's July and I think black will be too hot. The days are long so the sun will be out until we are well into the reception.

There is absolutely nothing informal about a suit. Let him wear what he wants. It's his wedding too. Look at Hayley's pictures. Nothing wrong with what he wants.

Honestly, not to be mean, but you should get over it. It's his wedding too and isn't him having a strong opinion better than him just saying "whatever you want" and acting like he doesn't care?

You'd pitch a fit if anyone tried to tell you what kinda dress you had to wear, right? I mean any bride would. So why would you wanna do that to him? Let him be a big boy and put his own clothes on and just dress the BP to match. At least, that's my vote.

I actually can't even tell the differences between a tux and suit, unless there is tails. So, kudos for having a man understand fashion! I would let him pick what to wear. But I honesetly don't know what the difference is betweem a suit and a tux. What my DH wore was a 'tux' but it looked like a suit to me. Perhaps you can sugguest that you both go look at suits and tuxes and he tried both on, just to see if they look/feel different to him, then let him go ahead and pick which ever.

I love love a charcoal gray suit - and i love that he wants to buy his wedding clothes instead of just renting a tux. ted baker has some amazing suits - they are cut beautifully and nearly look custom made.

good luck!

Well it's funny that you should post this. My FH does not want to wear a tux either, but he doesn't have a choice. My way or else. I'm not a fan of the groom wearing a suit if the wedding is formal. My groom is wearing a charcoal tux and yes it is very similar to black. It's much darker than the gray suits that were posted. My advice would be to have him visit a few tuxedo shops and play dress up. He might be surprised.

My FS and I both really like charcoal too. They do make charcoal tuxes. Not every place carries them so we had to look around a bit, but some tux places do carry them. This might be the best compromise so you still get a tux but he gets the charcoal color we wants.

Thank you for all the advice Whoever wrote about Chelsea Clinton's wedding, that really helped for me to be like whewwww, its ok! LOL! The main reason I was getting upset about this whole thing is my dad. He is being extremely generous and has really not asked for anything with the wedding. (VERY unlike him, he can be a little "George Banks" sometimes). So when my dad asked to wear his tux, I wanted to say yes because I knew it meant so much to him. I told my FI this and I was just disapointed that he just didn't understand how much I wanted my father to feel happy on my big day. (Which of course he will be regardless but still.) Also, FI and I did discuss the "feel" before now - we decided on evening, ballroom wedding, very "Frank Sinatra" style. I don't know if when we agreed on that, that the FI didn't realize that that involved a tux but trust me, the idea was as much his as mine. He is a very opinionated FI! (Which I would rather him be than not be.)

Anyways, so we decided to go to Mens Wearhouse this weekend and each pick out what we had in mind and see if we can merge the ideas. I really took his opinions into account when I went dress shopping so hopefully he can do the same. Plus, the man looks AMAZING in a dark suit and bowtie - the first night I met him that's what he was wearing and I instantly fell in love Maybe that's why I'm so set on it!!!

My fiance' wants to wear a ZOOT SUIT.....I think you got it easy. He knows how much I don't like it but I keep reminding myself its his wedding too.You never know he might give in.

My fiance wasn't going to wear a tux. In fact, we had already bought a suit but his groomsmen talked him into it. They wanted all to wear matching tuxes. so he returned the suit and besides, if 5 people rent a tux, the groom's is free.

What if your dad still wore the tux...since he's not part of the WP (unless he is?)

Ask your groom about jazzing up a suit (which is already plenty formal) in way that expresses his personality as a not-tux person and still fits the formality of the occasion.