First let me say that my daughter is getting married and her dad is no help. My husband her step-dad has Always been supportive financially to both my children and loves them like his own. He just can't grasp the cost of a wedding. He thinks it's ridiculous. He does not say that to her but expresses it to me. I agree weddings can be stupid expensive. We are at an expense of under $9000 for venue, reception, food, photography EVERYTHING for 150 guest!! That is cheap for a wedding and my daughter is very conscious of expenses and looks for any bargains we can get. We are not broke and could afford more so it isn't putting us in a financial strain. He has 2 daughters and is convinced they won't spend this much on a wedding. Maybe.. Maybe not that is still yet to be determined.. However, They are different from my daughter I want this day to be special for her and what she wants within reason. But how do I get him to understand how excited and important this day is to her... Our finances are combined he makes about 30k more a year then me. So it isn't like I am spending all HIS money...