My MIL Wants To Go On My Honeymoon!

I'm sorry but I laugh a little when I saw this title, frankly that's what I would've done when I found out my MIL wants to go to our honeymoon, definitely tell her no and both of you should have a talk with her

There is no talking to this woman. We actually got into it that day that she told me that she couldn't come to the wedding because she has to run the flea market booth (don't ask...) during the festival and that money was more important to her then coming to our wedding. I usually hold my tongue when it comes to her and all her kids knows that money means more to her then anything else and they are used to it. Now that FH's brother made it so that she could attend she has decided that she wants to stay at the same lodge that we are going on our honeymoon. Don't get me wrong. We usually get along but like I said I usually hold my tongue when I disagree because she is the in your face type of woman and she ALWAYS gets what she wants and she always has. She would actually think there is nothing wrong with her being at the same place that we are honeymooning at.

That is ridiculous! I hope it works out for you. If I were you, I would try to find another place to go!

OH H^ll no! I would first find someone else to watch my kids. Then I would find another place to stay. Even if I had to camp with FH in the rain in a tent, which I hate doing, it would be better than any family member staying in the same place during our HM. This woman needs to be put in her place.

Well it looks like that she is coming up to the lodge the day after us so we might have one night without her being there. The only alternative is to go to a local hotel but we have already stayed there a couple of times before and would really like to go somewhere special. Perhaps I can handle her being there for one day but I just don't know.

Hmm...a day alone in the lodge, then they come to visit. I think that is a perfect time to shoot back home (save a day's lodging to use at another time!) and spend some quiet time with just the two of you at home :-) Leave them at the lodge by themselves, just don't tell them where you are going!

I like Karen M's idea!

Politely tell her to cut the apron strings....thats hard! I feel for you!

Random idea-why not leave the kids with someone else like your mom or their friends?

Random idea-why not leave the kids with someone else like your mom or their friends?

Over my dead body! that's what you tell her... who does she think she is? does she not remember HER honeymoon?

Maybe you could postpone it to the next weekend? Tell her you decided to go somewhere else, and they only had time the weekend after her trip. She sounds nuts. I do not know how you brides with crazy in-laws do it.

Tell her that since she decided to go to the lodge at the same time, you have changed your reservations and are now going to such-and-such hotel....then go to the lodge anyway. If she's really doing it to be spiteful she will go to the wrong one!

Well here is the new update. We were talking to her today and she said that she was only taking the youngest of my three kids and that the other two can stay with my parents. I told her that I've been thinking about it and I believe that it wouldn't be fair for any of my kids to be left out of going to somewhere special and that maybe all three should stay with my family. She doesn't really like my oldest son because he is ADHD and at times be hard to handle and she wants to take my daughter but she don't see how they can hide the fact that she is with them. She even suggested that we go on our honeymoon a day later and take my daughter with us and then sneak her into my MIL's room. I told her that I want to go on my honeymoon the day of my wedding not afterwards and that my mother has taken off of work those two days so she can watch my children. I don't think that it is fair that she wants to take certain kids with her and not all of them.

She doesn't even want my oldest kid to know that they want to go to the lodge so he wont feel "hurt." I told her that he is going to feel "hurt" anyway because it isn't fair. I explained that I'm just going to have to allow all my kids to stay with my family and she replied "well I'm taking the baby." I guess I'm going to have to hide my kids in my parents car so I can get what I want. No wait...she will be leaving soon after the wedding so she wont be there when my parents leave so she wont be able to stop them from going to my parents house. Oh my goodness...am I wrong in doing this? Will I cause more trouble then good? But, I have to think of my children's feelings, right? I'll have to talk to FH about this. What do you think?

Um, still, hell no! It's your honeymoon! There is no reason why she has to go that weekend of all weekends. If she likes the place so much, she can go a different time. You shouldn't have to be dealing with any of this. Especially since it's your MIL! Let your FS deal with it. Unless he wants to go on his honeymoon without you, that is...And why the heck should you change your plans to suit her? This isn't about her, it's about the two of you.

And she has no right to say which kids she can take considering that they are your kids. The nerve of some people, I swear...

WHHHHAAAAATTT?? Oh dear, that is just really odd. She needs a life and you need to make sure you stay somewhere, anywhere, away from friends and family, especially since it'll be so short.

I would go CRAZY if my MIL was anywhere near us during my honeymoon

Oh hell no! lol there is now way I would let that happen! And yes you do have a reason to be upset! It's you and your fh honeymoon! You can't have future in-laws going! That's just crazy that she would think that would be okay.

You definitely are not overreaciting. this is ridiculous! i would have your fh talk to his mom and tell them that they need to stay somewhere else bc you are going there for your honeymoon and do not want to be bothered by anyone,or even having the chance of running into a family member.