My Mom is over opinionated, are yours'?

Off the top of my head I can't remember what else specifically that happened. But I told her one day when she was trying to force her opinions on me that "this is our wedding not yours, besides the cost of things that your paying for, ie making sure we stay in budget. It's our wedding and our decision" geez. Oh just thought of two. She insists we stay separate the night before. We have been living together for over a year. It's ridiculous, this isn't an arranged marriage and I'm not 18. Get over it. As well as the fact that I don't want to do a money dance. I'm not up for sale, we have our honeymoon paid for, and just awkward. No, sorry but not sorry. End rant...

What? Is she paying for the wedding/makeup/makeup trials? I would just say thanks but you have it covered.

My mom can be but she's been that way her whole life. I just ignore her and move on and that's what you need to do as well. Unless she's paying for your wedding then unfortunately she gets some say. (Not all the say though)

She is helping to pay for some things. Mostly just part of the venue. We are footing the bill for the majority of the venue and everything else. I take her opinion into consideration, but her style isn't necessarily my style. I think her problem is that she never got a big wedding and to plan like I am. So I've tried to involve her as much as possible. I finalised the flowers on my own, we are paying, and she got upset with me. She's been needing to work and I can't wait for her to do everything and involve her. We aren't hiring a MUA, I paid for my trial via buying makeup after they were done.

She has always been opinionated and so I just try to draw the line with her without being rude and hurting her feelings.

My mom never has a positive thing to say so I left her out of planning. If she isn't paying for that one particular thing, she has no say.

I actually had a problem with my little (22year old) sister instead of my mom. She's my best friend but she's also a little prickly sometimes. I guess she had a vision of my wedding in her head and as we started booking things, they didn't match what she wanted. It was almost impossible to talk to her about the wedding for a couple of months. She stuck her nose up at our venue, cake, etc. even though we've chosen some of the absolute best vendors in our area. I think my mom finally had a talk with her and she straightened out.

Now I get to hear her complain about how my mom is "taking over" our shower. Sorry kid, you expect mom to foot the bill even though you have a job, she gets a lot of say.

I am the opposite. My mom is and always will be the "I will support you no matter what type." I love her for it. But, as she is paying, I have repeatedly had to remind her that she gets a say. Most recently, I asked for a list from her of people she wants me to invite. She said "just the obvious people (listed our family) and then I may have some suggestions later based on what you want to do." What does that even mean??

I would stop discussing things you don't want her opinion on. My mom had a ton of opinions on what music my bridal party should walk into to and even what song I should. (She even wanted to pick my first dance) I completely stopped talking about it and picked my own music. Problem solved.

My mom is helping pay for my dress and the flower girls and ring bearers stuff and that's it. But when I asked her opinion on those things she just laughed and said wasn't her circus to deal with.

I don't tell my mom anything because she's not interested, but if it was my brother she would be very opinionated. Just hear her out but do what you choose to do. It's your day after all.

My mom tries. I used to tell her to renew her vows until my father passed away now I tell her anyone who doesn't like what we are doing can stay home.

I think basically everybody's mother gets over opinionated about things when it comes to wedding planning. You are definitely not alone!

I feel your pain, I think most mothers are. Just hang in there and stay firm. At the end of the day you need to be happy with your choice, especially if your paying for it yourself. Later down the road when you look back at your special day you don't want to regret anything and be mad at yourself for not standing up. That's how I look at it.

My mom was very similar to this. She felt she wasn't being included, she felt my FMIL was being included more than her, and she questioned a lot of my choices on things. I tried explaining that I wasn't really including anyone in the planning as I wanted people to just be able to show up and enjoy themselves, but she didn't get it. She also didn't get to have a big wedding, so I know some of it was her trying to live through me. And I DID try and include her and ask opinions on things, but our tastes are completely different so she kept giving me negative feedback. So I stopped asking her. I love her and I feel bad, but this is my wedding, not hers.

My mom has an opinion about everything, and mostly it's the opposite of mine. We've always had drastically different taste in things. My parents are paying for the bulk of the wedding, so I have to be respectful of their wishes. But everything from the save-the-dates, to my shoes, to how I want my hair, to who is in the wedding party - we have opposite opinions.

She is like that in everyday life though, or at least has been for the past 5-10 years or so. We get along for the most part though, especially now that I don't live with her.

We agree on my dress and my FH though, so there are some important things, at least!