My mom is super critical about my body.

Unfortunately I too have dealt with an overly critical mother. She keeps telling me my venue is too far (it’s like hour tops away from her) and that nobody is going to come or everyone will leave right after dinner because it’s on a Sunday. She’s also made comments about my weight before, though I haven’t gone dress shopping with her yet (not until early September) but I did go dress shopping with my future mother and sister in law and unofficially said yes to the dress, so I know what I want just have to buy it! You are beautiful and your dress is stunning! I know it’s hard to ignore those comments because she is your mom, but as long as you feel good and you love it that’s all that matters

View Quoted Comment I appreciate the compliment! She has been saying this every month it just hits a lot different with her saying it in my wedding dress and I have spoke to her prior saying not to make those comments because of how it affects me and its like she doesn’t care. My mother in law has my back thankfully!

View Quoted Comment It’s just so heartbreaking when mothers make those comments, they are supposed to be supportive no matter what.

You look absolutely stunning! I’m sorry that you are experiencing this. Honestly your fiancé loves you for YOU. Do not lose weight, unless you want to of course, but you are beautiful, the dress fits you beautifully, and your fiancés jaw is going to DROP when he sees you walking down the aisle.

View Quoted Comment Exactly! I take two medications that make me gain weight super easily so its hard for me to lose weight and maintain my weight.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! 💛 I appreciate you! I just know that I do not want to spend nor can afford the amount of alterations it will cost to even alter it if I lost so much weight.

My mom showed me my high school prom picture that was taken in 2005 and said this is could be my motivation to lose weight, so yep I just ignore her I have had 9 kids so I have a pooch that is never going to go away but I love the way I look my fiance loves the way I look so she can kick rocks. you look amazing in your dress if you want to loose weight do so for you not for anyone else

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome! That and I feel like you don’t need any other stressors while wedding planning. If you do it for you that’s different but don’t put any unnecessary stress or pressure on yourself. Enjoy your engagement & wedding planning with your fiancé. 🤗

Omg that's sad 😢 I haven't dealt with it but I would just ignore her. I wish people would be more supportive rather than judgmental

Wow that dress is gorgeous on you! I'm sorry your mom made those comments.

Yep, I had a heart-to-heart explaining how I felt when my mom made comments about my butt looking big in certain dresses or that a dress made me look fat. It’s body shaming and if you’re happy in the skin your in, let your mom know her comments are negative.
I found in talking with my mom that at the core she is Very insecure about her weight and appearance, which is why she was concerned for me looking “fat” on my wedding day. It didn’t make it ok but I could understand where she was coming from. She agreed to not make those type of comments again.

View Quoted Comment A little bit ago I asked her to atop explaining my feelings because this is not the first time. She apologized and understood but now she is back at it.

Yup, found my dress with my mom and grandma (gram was super grumpy and didn't "love" my dress), went out to lunch with my mom after to "celebrate" and got talked at for half an hour about all of the ways I could try to lose weight since her and my dad are getting into shape so she expects me to lose a ton as well. On top of my mom butting in when I was trying to make the order for my dress asking the lady what happens if I lose weight before my wedding 🙄 But I went home and got reminded by my fiancé that he proposed to me and doesn't care if I lose weight for our wedding or not, he will love me and accept me either way, and I'm sure your fiancé feels the same!

You look absolutely gorgeous in your dress! And your fiancé will think you look amazing. If you've already asked your mom to stop and she's not honoring your request then I would shut her down any time she brings up weight in general. Walk away. It's not worth it.

Perhaps unfortunately, I've always been more critical of my weight/appearance than my mom ever has, and she has pretty much supported me at whatever weight I happen to be. When I've been heavier I've known it and shared my feelings with my mom and she validates me but never lets me get too hard on myself. We both know what weight we feel best at and what is healthy and know its sometimes a struggle to maintain.

I work as an athletics director at a college, overseeing fitness programs including a women's workout group (which kind of doubles as a support group for women's health), and have experienced a lot of female students who have shared very critical comments made by their moms, or who have expressed an interest in losing weight to satisfy the demands of their critical female family members (moms/sisters). Its heartbreaking, because many of these young women actually enjoy exercise and are not grossly unhealthy but feel so much pressure to be thin or look a certain way, and have been conditioned to value how their body looks more than how it feels or what it is capable of, and in turn see exercise as a chore that they need to do in order to maintain an expectation their families have of them. Many of these women struggle with mental health and body image issues as a result, and many of them are more active and healthier overall than some of their much slimmer peers.

In most cases, I do think the moms mean well, they just don't realize how damaging their comments are. Many moms project their own insecurities on to their daughters or fail to recognize their daughters as individual human beings with bodies different from their own. Most moms are not trying to make their daughters feel horrible or shame them into hating their bodies - they want them to be healthy and feel attractive and confident - so they'll make a comment that they think is helpful but actually hurts a lot.

I would, as best as possible, try to ignore your mother and focus on how you feel. If you feel good, love the way your dress looks and fits, and feel comfortable and confident, then embrace it! You do not need to lose weight if you are healthy and happy.

Your dress is beautiful by the way!

I have not received the same criticism but you look absolutely beautiful in your dress. Do and wear what makes you feel great!

Yup, I've had many comments made about my weight - and it really hurts! I'm sorry you had to go through that - it's the worst feeling!! But, as long as YOU feel beautiful in your dress, then that's all that matter.

P.S your dress is BEAUTIFUL (very similar to what I'm looking for) and you look BEAUTIFUL in it!!

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