My mom refuses to buy a new dress for my wedding

View Quoted Comment Aww thank you so much 💕 I really really hope one of them makes her feel beautiful

I don't see a problem either with her wearing an old dress. my bff's mother did that for her wedding and it's not like anyone will notice or know. especially if the dress IS fashionable then i don't quite see anything wrong with it. in fact it's quite economical. but if you are going to offer to get her a new dress, then that's also nice of you

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I agree that your approach is incredibly kind and thoughtful -- what a wonderful daughter you are! I hope your mom finds a dress she loves from those in her own personal "trunk show" that you've arranged for her.... There are so many posts on this forum about brides' issues with their mother's choice of dresses, your positive, compassionate approach is a wonderful example of rethinking the concern!

View Quoted Comment I agree, you know your mom best. I think we’re you are coming from is that you want her to feel and look her best as the mother of bride that day especially since you know the stepmom will. It’s about making your mon feel special. Right?

Why does she need to buy a new dress? I don’t understand the problem.

My mother wore a formal dress she already had. She felt comfortable in it. It wasnt the wedding colors but she was happy!! That's all that mattered to me.
* this occurred at my first wedding.

Honestly, it really doesn’t matter as long as it’s wedding appropriate. You are going to steal the show so who cares what she’s wearing!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your kind words 💕

I legitimately just ordered her one myself. lol Goodluck, I too have a stubborn mom!

View Quoted Comment I'm with you in this one. I just started my wedding planning journey and to ensure my mom and future mother in law look the best possible I will more than likely go dress shopping with them. I think it really comes down to you. Have a talk with her and see what she says.

I don't see a problem with it. She bought you a dress so I would be happy about that lol. I wouldn't care if my mom didn't buy a new dress for my wedding, I wouldn't expect it. Surprise her and buy one for her if you feel she must wear a new dress!

Ok, I don’t necessarily agree that your mom has to have a new dress, BUT growing up with a headstrong mom myself, let me tell you what I would do. If you live close to your mother, get close to the wedding, like, within a month. Then tell your mom that you’ve been so stressed about the wedding that you just want to go out and not even think about it for a while. Ask her if she would go to lunch/dinner and shopping with you. Odds are, she will run across something she likes, say, “oh, I love that! Try it on!” Once she tries it on, gush over it and talk about what a good deal it is how great she looks etc etc. Then while she’s still in it say, “Hey! You could wear this for the wedding,” and wiggle your eyebrows.


That would work for me haha! Hope some part of the suggestion helps!

Personally, I would take my mom shopping and buy her a new dress, but not because I think there is anything wrong with wearing a dress she has. My mom overthinks what to wear for any big events, gets stressed about shopping for the perfect thing, and then ends up choosing something even she hates (like an old tshirt for a fancy brunch bc she was worried about being too warm). I’ve learned that if I help, both of us will be happier in the end. She still regrets what she wore to our last family portrait before my grandparents passed, I want her to have good memories from my wedding!
It sounds like your mom may have some similarities, so I would help her out however you can to make her feel her best ☺️

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You are so sweet!

I dont care if my MOB, MOG, or my grandma buy new clothes for the wedding -- they could show up in pajamas for all i care. Them being there is what's important, not what they're wearing.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. People wear clothes they already own frequently and they look very nice.

I think you need to sit down and ask your mother what is her reasoning behind her not wanting to get a new dress. Have the conversation with her and also let her know your concerns. Hopefully, you two may reach each other half way... Wish you all the best!

Take your mom shopping and let her pick out a dress that she likes. As a gift to her, buy the dress. She's your mom and she isn't going to turn down a gift from you.

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I love this idea and you could have a lot of fun with it,

View Quoted Comment Obviously, you don't have my mother. Whose response would be much the same as mine would have been at age 15 or 18 if she just bought something she thought more appropriate than my choice to go out, or for a prom dress, and presented it to me. Not a friendly response. More like, if you think I cannot choose my own clothes, I will just stay home.