My mom refuses to buy a new dress for my wedding

View Quoted Comment My mother was so excited to look for her dress with me.

View Quoted Comment So were my grandmother and great aunt. Because they wanted new dresses to begin with. But nowhere has OP said her mom had nothing of the right formality or nothing nice. She says. mom wants to choose herself from her own closet. And it is rude to push an adult to do what they do not want to to, for no good reason. And a daughter who wants mom to look more fashionable than her step mom, rather than respecting the fact her mother is clear on what she wants, NOT a new dress , has no good reason. It should not be a competition between ex wife and next wife, and in her explanations, OP has made it one. That is bride's problem. Why should mom who does not want a new dress act on it ?

I’m sorry that would be frustrating. Maybe you could offer to buy her a new dress? Just like... she bought you a dress, offer to buy her dress. Tell her you know she could just wear something she already has, but this is a special occasion and a very special day for you. You want her to look amazing, and a new dress would look very nice. Maybe she feels like she doesn’t need a new dress, just make her see that it’s important to you and she might change her mind. Like you both wanna look beautiful. 😊💕 good luck!

I think this ultimately comes down to the dress she currently wants to wear. Is it appropriate for the formality of the wedding and mother of bride role? Does it still fit? Is it still in good condition? If all answers are yes, there is nothing wrong with wearing something she already owns! If any of the answers are no, then you might need to come up with a plan!

I am not having this issue but I would sit your mother down and tell her how important it is to you that she be represented as the mother of the bride. She can not stand out in just some dress in her closet. Maybe offer to go shopping with her? It would be such a special moment for you two. Try and get her to see it from a different perspective. I hope that helps! Best of luck!

This sounds like a non-issue. I literally don't understand you.