My mom wants me invite her closest friends

Is your mom paying? If she is paying she should be able to invite a few people. I only invent boss cause I could not invite everyone.

Ah yes being asian has this type of issue a lot! Our parents invited loads of their friends. It's sort of the same idea except the envelope is addressed from your parents instead of you and your fiance. LIMIT THE AMOUNT OF PEOPLE THEY CAN INVITE. I only let our parents each have x amount of tables or else they'd invite the whole world if I didn't limit them.

I asked each of our parents if there was anyone they wanted us to invite. They each want their besties + spouses there so we will invite them. I haven’t seen them in forever but I grew up close enough with them. As for co workers.... only if they’re friends outside of work. That’s what we’re doing. It’s really hard to put a limit on people!

My mother told me to give my grandmother a strict limit on people she could invite. I gave her 10 people. Otherwise she would have invited her entire office.
I got a short list of people from my parents as well.

With the understanding that I could make cuts. I did. No hard feelings.

My mom is having me invite these church couples that i haven’t seen in forever because they prayed for me and cared about me since i was little I’d say let them come the more the merrier

Because the wedding is the only ceremony where everyone can come together and give their blessing to couples.

Both sets of parents are contributing financially to the wedding, so they each invited a few friends. Part of me subscribes to the idea that it"s "our day," meaning just FH and me. However, another part of me thinks that the wedding is just as much for our families as it is for us. Our families are huge factors in who we are as people, and for me at least, I know our parents are just as excited for the day as we are. However, this is based on my and FH's positive relationships with our parents, so I know this is not a held by all, or even the majority.

View Quoted Comment For our honeymoon but that's it. She did say that she would pay for extra guests.

Give them a limit on guests. I told my mother she could invite my godmother and two more people.
I'm not inviting co-workers that's purely up to your comfort level.

I think it really depends. If she is paying for it, she should be allowed to invite some of her people, especially because they are her closest friends. I come from the mentality that it isn't "my" day. It is our family's day and the blending of 2 families. I wanted the people that are important to the family to be there.

I let my mom invite some of her closest friends. They knew me growing up. Seemed like a nice thing I could do for her.

If she’s paying for it, you should definitely allow at least a few friends of hers to come. My parents are paying and while most of the guests she invited I know, there’s a couple that I have supposedly met but couldn’t even tell you what ethnicity or approximate age they are. Apparently the dad fixed our door once? Weird but whatever. I tried to get her to not invite them by asking to only invite people I knew, but she said “too late, I’ve already been telling them about the wedding!” A little annoying, but whatever.

We didn’t do co- workers unless we were friends outside of work. We invited our parents best friends. I am close to a lot of my moms close friends though! I didn’t know any of FH parents friends and I don’t think FH had seen them in years, but both of our parents contributed to the wedding so ours was going to be large no matter what! We both have big families

If she's contributing then discuss it with her after you've set a guest limit and budget and work from there.

My parents only paid for the deposit on our venue as a gift but didn't want to influence any of our decisions. When I told my mom that I didn't want to invite her side of the family (that's a whole story) she was fine with it because she understood my reasons.

If she is paying for it I would say go for it. My FH and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves, so what I ended up doing for both parents was setting a limit for how many people they wanted to invite. I sent them the guest list and said "you can invite 12 additional people"

Don't invite. Or rather, give her like 2 or 3 to choose from. That's what I'm having to do.

I would say no to the coworkers. For your mom’s friends... is your mom contributing financially to the wedding? If so, let her invite a few.

Unless shes paying for it tell her no

I agree with providing a limit.. If she is not paying, you need to be firm about this and what you/FH want and can pay for.