Hi all, advice needed. My mother wants to officiate and I don't really want her to. I have said nicely "I'd love you to be a guest" "I really want you to enjoy the day" etc. Abd she is persistent that it is the biggest honor a mother can have.
Background:
My parents are divorced, it's not nice.
My dad is walking me down the aisle.
My mom hates my dad and becomes emotionally upset when she sees him.
My my college graduation she hid in the bathroom and called my cell and said "I guess you dont want me here. I wont come out if your dad is still here". Then refused to take any pictures with him. I later had to hold her hand while she cried on the bench in the hallway.
My mom also had a horrible concussion and crowds make her stressed and when she is stressed she cries and runs away.
My fear is my dad will walk me downthe aisle and mom my will have such a negative reaction it will ruin her day!
I already have a back up officiant who understands the whole situation and will be ready to jump in.
In theory it would be so lovely to have her officiate but I am worried it will ruin HER day.
Please help!
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