To make an extremely long background story short, my parents hate each other. My dad is remarried, and I am closer to my step siblings than I am to my brother. My mom has a long term boyfriend that hates me. I get along decently with my dad and step-mom, and my mother and I have a very strained relationship.
My future in-laws are two of the greatest people I have ever met, and my MIL is one of my closest friends.
I am extremely close with my step sister. I want her there specifically for the dress shopping. My mother is crazy, though, and has said she's not welcome. She has also been touchy about my MIL being there due to us being so close. To be up front and honest, my mother claims that she is paying for the dress.
My future FIL and MIL are paying for a majority of the wedding at this point, we are very fortunate and lucky. With this, we more than have the ability to pay for my dress. Is it worth it to tell my mom these people are involved no matter or just say that we are paying for the dress, and if she'd like to join us here is the day and time?
This has been an extremely difficult planning process with my mother involved. Her boyfriend is not invited due to his hatred of me, and he's genuinely a bad person. My mother is jealous of the relationship I havee with my MIL. My mother and I will never have a close relationship. She was not a great person in my life and continues to cause stress and turmoil.
I know I'm not the only one, so how did anyone else handle the insanity? I'm to the point of almost just cutting her out and sending her the invite so she can be there, but have no further participation in anything else.