My parents don’t want me to change my last name

What do you want to do? If you want to change your last name, then that's what you should do. Don't let them pressure you into keeping your last name. I personally choose to change it since I knew I wanted me, my husband and our future children to all have the exact same last name.
My mom gave me two middle names one of which is her maiden name since it wouldn't be passed on since she was an only child.

View Quoted Comment Yes I want to, I’ve already planned to! I’ve already gotten stuff made with my new monogram. I think it just makes them sad.

Changing your name is a personal decision. Do what you think is best for you, not based on what others want.

View Quoted Comment Do what you want and they will get over it.

They’ll adjust, but be sure to never apologize for doing it! You’re excited and don’t downplay ot for them!
My parents were surprised I was changing, and maybe a little sad too. They thought marrying a woman that we would keep our own names. My middle name was my mother’s maiden name and I was proud of that until I had an awful falling out with those grandparents. When I changed my name I also struck that name too- now my maiden surname is my middle name instead. My new last name is the name my wife and I agreed on together.

That isn’t their decision to make. What do you want?

Don't let anyone dictate your life!

Do what you feel is best for you and your new family. Remember that a last name does not make or break anything that has been defined by years within a relationship. My sister changed her last name after getting married. I'm also choosing to change my last name (putting my last name as a middle name). We're current working up new last name ideas together. I think another thing to realize is that it's not about passing down a name but about passing down traditions.

It's not their decision to make or for them to try to influence you otherwise. Do what makes you happy!

They can feel sad all they want about it but they don't have the right to make you feel bad for whatever choice you wish to make.

I guess like some of the other ladies have said you could keep it as a middle name, but if your last name is like mine, it wouldn't really sit well, and I like that my current middle name is for my grandmother, so I don't want to cut that, nor do I want to have two middle names.

I think you need to do what will make you happy.

I’m an only child and so after me there is no one to carry on my dad’s last name but he has come to terms that I’m still his baby girl but my last name will change.

Even if your kids won't have your parents' name, they'll still carry on their legacy. Carrying on a family legacy goes way beyond a name. If you have every intention to change your name, then go for it. It's your marriage, not theirs.

Can he take yours? Thatʻs what weʻre doing

Thanks everyone!!

Hello Jess

I assume you won't want them to decide where to live, what job to take, and if you and your man want to have kids, you won't want your parents to decide when you'll make your first one,to pick the name and the godparents, will you? The same goes for your last name. Because if you give them this one, things will get worse.

Your name, your choice.

I chose to keep my last name because I just felt like I wanted to. I actually like my husband's last name and how my first name and his last name fit together, but I've always been MyName and didn't want that to change overnight. I'm in my mid-30s, with an established career, a website with my name as the URL, and friends from prior chapters of life who all know me as MyName. I didn't spend the entirety of sixth grade perfecting my signature only to change it!

My husband was supportive of my decision - he just hates hyphenated names so his biggest concern is what last name our kids will have (they'll have his last name, pets get mine). I might choose to change my name in the future, but for now I'm keeping it.

Does your mom have your dad's last name? If so it seems sort of hypocritical to expect you to keep yours.

You should do whatever feels right to you. If its important that your last name and your husband's last name match, then discuss what that name will be (yours, his, you both have hyphenated names or two last names, a combination of your last names, a new name entirely). If you want a bit of both names, you could hyphenate. Or you can both keep your names.

Your name. Your choice.