My future in-laws are very traditional in that they believe the bride’s family should pay for all things wedding (except the rehearsal dinner). My parents were not expecting this and I have limited spare change because I’m in school, so this made me feel incredible pressure. I am so fortunate because my parents had been saving money (in secret) and that burden weighs a lot less now. Still, the amount of money gifted is not what my future in-laws deemed appropriate, they think it should be an endless stream.
Here’s where I get stressed again... my future in-laws are very opinionated and very conservative and our ideas don’t always align. My parents feel like our wedding should be what my FI and I want, and my mom has taken on a lot of the planning responsibilities to help me out. This has left my future MIL feeling left out, but to be honest, I haven’t asked much for her help about the things I have planned so far (dress, venue) because I know that our opinions won’t align on those things and I want to make sure I am making decisions based on what I want instead of settling for something else because I asked for opinions only in the of making her feel included.
What doesn’t help is my mom feels incredibly frustrated including my future MIL as she is not contributing financially, so my mom has very much been, “Well they don’t get a say, then, because we’re doing what we can afford.”
This is a ramble, but has anyone been in similar situations and what did you do?
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