Accidentally posted in wrong spot, corrected and flagged for duplicate to be removed
While I haven't formally asked anyone yet, they are adamant about bring bridesmaids. Going so far as to saying (jokingly) "we better not be stuck in ugly dresses for the wedding!"
This is where I might have messed up a bit. I laughed it off and in a light manor tried to gently tell them, "who says you are a bridesmaid?"
They basically laughed me off and went back to talking about bridesmaid duties.
To clarify, its not that I don't want them to be bridesmaids, but I already have 6 bridesmaid slots picked out, and 2 junior bridesmaids (my cousin and future sister in law, they are both in their early teens). If 2 people say no to being bridesmaids when I ask, then it'll work out and I can use them to fill slots, but until then, there's no way to add them in without it turning into a ridiculous amount of people.
I suggest having them do a reading, but my partner doesn't like that idea, as then his two other cousins would be left out completely. He says to just tell them they are not bridesmaids and leave it at that, but I want to make them feel included in some way.
Has anyone dealt with this before? How do I include them and make everyone happy with out ripping my hair out?
