My sil didn't include me when she married my brother, do i have to include her in my wedding?

Your wedding party is your choice. End of sentence. Have you ever asked your brother why you weren't included to begin with? Now might be the time to get the closure you need.

I think that this is your day, so if this is going to hurt you then don't include them. You should only be focusing on you, and shouldn't matter what they say cause they didn't even include you!

I'm sorry maybe I'm misreading your thing but you were not invited to the wedding at all or a part of the wedding party? In regards to your wedding party you don't feel the need to invite her and I definitely would not because you are not included in hers. I'm sure she likes you but apparently you are not that important to her to be in your bridal party. I would be surprised if she is expecting you to inviterher to be a part of the party.

The simple answer is that you don't have to include anyone you don't want to. But the same rule applies to your brother and his wife. They chose their party for their reasons and it was very unlikely to have been a planned slight against you.

If you really do want to include your brother in your party, you should absolutely feel free to do so, even without including his wife. Other than invitations to the event itself, there are no rules about having to include both spouses in weddings.

You don’t HAVE to do anything ... it’s YOUR wedding so do whatever you want and feel is right !

I don't see why you have to include her in your wedding party if your step-brother is included. I would think you can have your step-brother in your wedding if you want to. It is totally up to you who you have in your wedding party just like they got to choose who was in their wedding party.

If it is important to you, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with including your brother in your party and just inciting the SIL as a guest! It sounds like that would make you most comfortable

I was in my SIL wedding but she's not in mine. My brother is a groomsmen and at first she was a little upset, but got over it. Your wedding your bridal party. Honestly the only reason I did not include her is because her son will be 1 by the wedding but ever since he was born, if he's not held by her, my brother or my mom he does this high pitched scream cry. With both my brother and my mom walking, we just could not afford that cry in the background since we have videographers.

You’re not obligated to have anyone in your wedding party, whether you were in theirs or not.

You didn’t discuss if you are close to your SIL. If ur not close then no you Dont Have to ask her to be in your wedding party. Just ask your step bro because you are really close to him and you love him. Just say u have all your bridesmaids already.

They didn't include you and no one said anything, so why should you have to include them? Pick who you want beside you, never ask people because you feel obligated!

You can still include your brother, but not include her. I’ve been to many wedding where just one half of the couple is in the wedding. Or you can just invite her or both of them as guests. It’s your wedding! They obviously didn’t consider your feelings for their wedding, or the bride was a bridezilla and wanted the bridal party a certain way. Either way, it’s not cool they excluded you.

Since you were never an exceptionally close friend of your now SIL, there was no reason at all for her to include you in her bridal party. And as you have not become the closest of friends since her wedding, there is no reason at all for you to choose to have her in your wedding. . . . I think your being upset you were not included in her party was silly. You were not super close to her, you say so. Being MOH or BM is an honor for closest friends and family. You two were not close then. You had no reason to feel slighted, as she did nothing wrong. And she has no reason to expect you to choose her, not a close enough friend. I think you are worrying needlessly about something simple. Choose people you feel really close to. That won't include her. That is fine.

Your wedding, your way. If it bothers you a lot about what happened a couple years ago when you weren’t included in theirs, then simply ask them.

You can ask your brother without asking SIL. But ultimately if he's going to be a groomsman that is your FH's call. I wouldn't include her becausse it doesn't sound like you are close with her. But I wouldn't not include her just as 'payback' for not being in her wedding. Make sure the reason you aren't including her is because you don't feel close with her, or if you DO feel close with her then include her.