My sister doesn’t talk to me unless she wants something.

Nope, not wrong. If you know how she is, then it won’t change and it will cause you additional stress.

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No. If you don’t have a good relationship, the fact that you’re getting married isn’t going to make it better.

Not at all. Not all family is close. I have blood aunts I won't even discuss my wedding with and my mom's best friend who has been more of an aunt to my brother and I who I keep in the loop of all of our plans. I feel if you have family that only come to you when they need something that is not family. I have half sisters I am not that close with and my MOH is my best friend who is more like a sister to me. You do you and honestly I feel if you make her a BM she will be a stress that you do not need.

Nope. In fact, inviting her when the relationship isn’t good might only bring more stress & drama for both of you, which you don’t need while wedding planning.


My sister & I started growing apart several years ago. I wasn’t sure she’d even be there and I finally let it go that whatever was best would be. She was there and was super supportive. But letting go of expectations around people is helpful. Sad, but helpful. 🤗

I would for sure think long & hard about her becoming a bridesmaid. Will it be really bad for you & her if she isn't one? Or will she really not care? If you ask her, will she cause constant stress for you with anything she is supposed to do?

I’m with most, no. Nothing is more stressful than flaky bridesmaids.

Based on her behavior, I don’t think it’s a good idea to ask her