My sister got engaged...

Aww I am so sorry, huggsss well I hope he will propose on July 27th.

Aww...I'm sorry hun...I'm sure he is just waiting for the perfect time...*hugs*

You aren't engaged yet?

Yeah, I sorta thought you were already engaged too. Musta missed that somewhere.

I have sisters. I get how it is. Of course, logically and rationally thinking, her engagement would not overshadow yours since you are not engaged yet. She has to get on with her life. What would make you happy? If you could announce your engagement and plan a big wedding? That's fine and well and good. It should not have anything to do with her life. You don't want her to get married? But that is your opinion. How can you dictate her life, when she gets married, and to whom? Are you her parent? Is she under 18?

Just try to think for a minute how you would feel if someone tried to tell when, how, and to whom you should get married to? Sounds crazy, right?

It will happen for you when the time is right.

Until then, just be supportive or just attend her wedding....not meaning that you need to help her plan every day or get all giggly... but just support her.

If you arent engaged yet why are you on this site?

Additionally I agree you really have no right to be angry at you sister, if it your man who is dragging his feet.. Be happy, helpful and supportive even if it is her second marriage

Your sister is just going on with her life. She is engaged and getting married. You are not even engaged yet so how is it she is overshadowing you!? It really doesn't matter the circumstances of her relationship with her FH. She can't put her life on hold until your guy decides to make more of a commitment to you. While I understand you being disappointed that you are not the one getting engaged, it really has nothing to do with your sister's plans.

I feel your pain, dks. My then bf and I planned our wedding for 6 months before he proposed. We already had the chapel booked a month before I even got my ring

All I can say is that it will be worth the wait, trust me. I know it is SO hard to wait right now, especially when other people around you are getting engaged (and in my case using ideas that I wanted to use but couldn't "call" because we weren't offically engaged!). Feel free to vent and get it all out because that's the only thing that helped me when I was feeling so frustrated with my now-FS.

I was very upset when my younger sister (she's only a year younger than I am) got engaged before I did and we had both been seeing our significant others for the exact amount of time. Even though I was extremely upset, I knew my FS was waiting until it was right for us. FS and I were still both in college while my sister had already finished LPN school. Now my sister is married and I'm extremely happy for her and can't wait for my own. So I know its tough but the right time will come for you two!

@littlefox, there are a lot of people on this site who are anticipating getting engaged soon. I looked at wedding stuff and engagement advice before I got engaged, because I knew we were getting ready for that next step. Also, there are plenty of people on this website who are already married and aren't planning a wedding. I don't think there is a specific relationship status that needs to be followed to join in discussion.

*didn't want that 5th star* I dont think your situation was the same a ring doesnt equal a proposal. From what you said it seems that you were engaged while the poster has on multiple topic discussed who she really isnt. IDK why she is still on this site, it must just upset you even more to be around people who are getting married when you want to so much but arent there yet. I'm sure it will work out eventually take a brake from weddingwire until then or it will just make you crazy/scare off you Boyfriend

If there was a 'flag as appropriate' button, I'd do it on Mary's post. Well said.

Mary* i understand what you are saying, but my post is more gear to her situation (or what i know of it) based on previous posts as well as this one.

in "Relationship Problems - Lack of proposal and then some" posted on 06/08/10 it was made clear that he had no desire to get married at this time and she (no offense) was failing at trying to pressure him into it. It sounds like its a lot of unnecessary stress on their relationship. What she should do is determine if he will ever want to get married if so give him the time to get there too rather than forcing him. ( you wouldnt want to marry someone who doesnt want to marry you)

if you talk to him and determine that he never wants to get married then you need to think about how important it is to you...dont expect to change him! decide if you will be happy with him forever without the marriage if so stay. if you decide your life will not be complete without marriage then you may need to reevaluate the relationship.

Personally I don't think it is an issue for people who are not engaged yet to be on this site. I was not officially engaged, but had pretty much everything planned before I got the ring. Once the ring was on my finger, I just called my vendors and everything was booked.

@Shana-Thanks, I read your post really quick and thought it said "inappropriate" and was all in panic that I said something wrong. Phew, glad I reread it.

I never once said I wanted her to hold off on her life. I was just expressing that I was upset about the situation in general.

Thank you to the supportive ladies.

I agree with JJ. Nobody can tell you how to feel, but nobody can be expected to put their lives on hold, either.

Again, I never said I expected her to put her life on hold.

Dks, I'm sorry you're feeling upset and hurt. When the time is right for you and your significant other it will happen. FH and I have been engaged for 4ish years, and when a girl I work with who has been with her FH for 2ish years set her date I was feeling upset, b/c I felt like I was never going to have my wedding, but it actually turns out we are going to get married 6 months prior to her, just the date we finally chose. So don't worry it will happen when the time is right sweetie.

And I think there are people that are genuinely trying to show you the other side of the situation, are are just being honest, so try not to take it to heart. As for people that just want to be rude and aggressive, flag and move on

Sorry, dks, I had this thread open for awhile before I replied, so I missed your post right above mine.

I can see why you're feeling upset, but honestly, it is highlighting existing problems--and while you obviously recognize that, most of your original post is still about your sister and your evaluation of her relationship. Just be careful not to slip into resentment towards her.

If it makes you feel any better dks...which it might not, I understand, but I almost left my fiance before he proposed because I thought marriage wasn't a priority for him. Back in December I started discussing it with him and asked him what he thought, and he said he was "okay with marriage", and when I tried pressing him further that's all I got, so I assumed marriage was something he would do just to make me happy but it wasn't a priority or something he looked forward to. So I think it was in March, I told him maybe we should consider being with other people b/c I didn't want to pressure him into marriage, but I wanted to be married at some point. And then he told me he had been saving up for a ring but didn't want me to know and he wanted the proposal to be a complete surprise! I felt so bad...because I didn't have a clue! But for a while I thought it was something he would never do.