My sister is trying to steal my spotlight, I'm super hurt.

Yea my guests are thrilled to spend the weekend in New Orleans. I'm too busy to help her with anything

Even if she's having it at a church, she'll be hard pressed to find a caterer, baker, photographer, etc for peak season (and the day after probably the most popular wedding date of this year).

Ugh that would piss me right off. What do your parents say about it? My cousins are getting married the weekend after we are, and we're already getting judgy comments from our overlappping guests, "oh weddings two weekends in a row...". I just honestly don't understand why she would want to do that. I would never schedule my wedding the same weekend, week, hell, probably even month as my sister, and we aren't even close. But, as @LittleDemon said... that would be a genius idea if you wanted to invite family but didn't want them to actually come... more room for friend invites... How horrible though?

This is where "you get one day" could be amended to "you get 24 hours"

If it makes you feel bettter... My twin sister had already accepted a bridesmaid position in my bridal party. Then, when she found out that both my father and stepfather were going to give me away at my wedding (and they were both okay with this arrangement), because she has an issue with my step-father, she not only said she would not be able to be a bridesmaid but that she would not be attending at all!

To top that off, my stepfather was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer on 12/30/16 and passed away 1/7/17. My mother and I drove an hour out of our way to see my twin and have dinner with her, while we were across the country dealing with his affairs and she says "It might be kinda tactless but I can come to the wedding now," and he hadn't even been cremated yet! I just looked at her and said "yes, that's pretty tactless". Then she asks me later if there's anything she should wear specifically. I looked and her and said "why? it's not like you're a bridesmaid or anything?

I'm tempted to not invite her at all, since she didn't care enough to even COME to my wedding when my stepdad was going to be there. To be clear and to make sure I wasn't being unsensitive to her possible plight, I've asked numerous women about if they'd been in her situation would they have acted like she did, a number of them said they'd been in worse situations than hers and totally would have sucked it up and gone, so I'm not sure what her deal is.

I'm with you, id be upset. One day after, seriously?

How are your guests going to enjoy themselves, stay out late and then do it again? If they're anything like me, I stay out late at a wedding and I'm exhausted by the end and want to sleep in and would not want to go to another wedding. It leaves your mutual guests taking it easy at yours or feeling exhausted for hers imo.

I'm all about it being one day only, but that's unnecessary and I don't think considerate of mutual guests or of you. She could have given more of a gap in dates. I hope it was because she couldn't get any other date because if other dates were available, that was really thoughtless

That being said, I wouldn't say anything. More then likely other people will say something and you don't have to get involved.

Thats a little way over the top @pho3nix do you think your sister had other issues with your stepdad that she may have never told you. Im also sorry for your loss

Wow @Pho3n1x.. that makes me sad. People can be so mean and hurtful. Sorry about your loss. I am a Cancer survivor and I've seen 1st hand the havoc it causes a family.

@Samtoine orrrr... 14 hours considering her wedding is at 7 pm and the sister's wedding is at 11 am the next day.

One of two things will happen:

Guests will party and have a good time at your wedding, be too hungover and decline your sister's wedding

OR

Guests will not stay late at your wedding in order to go to bed early and get up early to make the three hour trek.

Also, you both will probably get skimped on gifts (NOT trying to sound grabby). Just saying, if I have two wedding presents to buy for two consecutive weddings, I'm taking my wedding budget and splitting in half. IF I decided to go to both, which I would more than likely decline the second wedding.

I'm really not sure what else you can do, other than just try not to let it get to you. It sounds like she is either really trying to piss you off, or is trying to get a lot of declines (for whatever reason).

I mean I would be upset too TBH. They arent even 18 hours apart and if i received invites for 2 weddings back to back I would probably be declining one.

This is terrible, but hopefully she won't be able to find anything for that date so this won't even matter.

Also, if you are getting married in five months, she probably won't be able to book vendors, anyway!

Okay, but he gets the week off for the 4th, I assume? So why not plan the wedding for the same week next year? I understand not wanting to take time off from work, but come on now. They're getting married. My FH hates to take off, but you better believe he's down for a week away from everything.

Wowwww. I've heard some messed up things on this forum, but this one is definitely one my top contenders. It would be one thing if she wanted to do a joint wedding type of thing and have it at the same place (which would be super messed up if you weren't in agreement), but this is entirely another! I honestly would lose it and be stabby. So so stabby.

I'm hoping your joint family/friends are taking your side on this. The only reason I could imagine that people would go to hers instead would be if hers were local for them.

Maybe I'm alone in this, but this would totally ruin my relationship with her... I might never want anything to do with her and DEFINITELY wouldn't go to her wedding or even send a gift. Maybe I'm a petty bitch for saying that, but my blood is boiling for you haha

Ugh. Yeah I'd be upset too. That is really weird and rude. Talk with her and your family.

I feel like your mutual parent should have stepped in here and talked some sense into her. E.g., Sweetie that's not fair to our family and your guests to have 2 weddings so close to each other like that.

Aw I'm sorry. It's true you each get a day but she really should've thought this out because two weddings in one weekend is a lot of money for guests and just tiring in general. I personally would not want to go to my sister's wedding at 11 am the day after I get married. I'd be freaking exhausted.

Maybe she'll realize this is not the best idea and book another day, or maybe you'll get lucky and she won't be able to find a venue available. All you can hope for is that she either changes her mind or she's forced to pick a new date because of vendor availability :/

Wow that's pretty damn douchey- I'm with Celia- something's gotta be going on here.

I'd be pissed. She could've picked a day that wasn't so close to yours or a different month for that matter. If I was a guest I wouldn't want to go to both back to back.