My sister is trying to steal my spotlight, I'm super hurt.

I would be really annoyed. Is she going to have her RD during your wedding? I just don't see how this is going to work. And she expects you to go the day after your wedding?

I mean, if she just wants to elope with her and her FH, that's fine.

However, it sounds like she wants a larger affair, which she most likely won't get with your shared family already planning on attending yours.

If they really want to go to hers, they'll make it happen, but honestly? I'm not having a good time at one reception to drive three hours that night or get minimal sleep for a brunch wedding the next day.

Nope.

That's really annoying. I know you only get one day, but a day after? Really? Definitely sucks for your guests. But look on the bright side. At least your day is first

I have to ask -- is she a member of your bridal party? If so, this is going to be really weird.

So, your wedding is a Friday night beginning at 7:00. Great time, great night. Your local guests who work won't have to cut out of work early (it would be a different story if your Friday wedding started at 4:30 PM). Your reception will probably last until midnight or 1:00 AM, right? I'm wondering how your sister plans to attend your wedding (she is, right? -- even if she's not an honor attendant), and then deal with her own rehearsal dinner. and wedding eve The logistics are a nightmare. Will she just be MIA (yes, guests will notice that, and they will judge her and her wedding for it).

If I'm a guest at your wedding, OOT or local, I'm in it for the long haul. After dinner is cleared, my shoes will be in their customary place -- under the table -- I'm enjoying my cocktails, I'm having long conversations with people I don't get to see enough, I'm loving some (if not all) of your music, and the last thing I'm thinking about when things are at their peak around 9:30 PM, is calling it a night. Instead, I'll be falling into bed after your wedding (with a face full of faded make-up and falling apart hair) before passing out. Hopefully, I make an effort to set the alarm for 7:30 AM (but Ill be talking to myself and grumbling about this ridiculous second wedding) so that I can get up, shower, redo my hair, apply a whole new mask of make-up, put on another dress, dole out another $250 for a gift, grab some coffee, and make it to a Saturday morning wedding that starts at 11:00 AM (that's three hours away). If I can't get up at 7:30, guilt might motivate me to sleep in until 9:00 AM, get out by 10:00 AM, and set my goal of reaching her reception by 1:00 PM. I know that I'm probably skipping the ceremony. I might be skipping the reception as well, but I really won't know until the alarm goes off and I see how I feel. I know that if I wanted to attend her entire event, I will be irritated while at your reception because I'd know that I had to curtail my fun and socializing at your reception because your sister was having her wedding the next day. In my book, it would be first come, first served, and that would obviously be you.

I hope she's happy with his entire family being in attendance and a fragment of yours at her wedding.

I'm also a proponent of "you get one day", but I'm going to amend that after reading this post. This is far too close for comfort, and as an invited guest, I would be busy trying to figure out what was going on between the two of you to make her even consider such an ill fated plan. Besides, what about you and your husband? Shouldn't the day after your wedding be spent sleeping in until whenever, ordering a fabulous breakfast in bed, talking about your wedding, and opening all of your envelopes (and whatever else crosses your mind?). To think that you and FH will have gone from the high pressure lead up to finally experiencing the pay-off, and when the relaxation should begin, your day has been monopolized and you're up with the sound of alarm, showering, and getting ready for her wedding. That's just wrong.

I don't know if she's very young, very silly, or just wants to save PP charges while still collecting gifts, but you have every right to feel the way you feel. Hurt? Yes. Angry? Yes. But most of all, confused. Talk to her and explain to her that "if they don't come, that's fine" works in theory, but lots of bad wedding plans work in theory. It's when you see them in practice that you realize how badly you erred -- and lots of empty seats can't be spun to be anything other than what it is -- they didn't want to attend her wedding, and in this case, it's simply because she asked too much of them.

I would only be upsrt if i planed my honeymoon rhe next day after my wedding. Like for us if we do decide on going on a honeymoon we are think the next day after our wedding. So for that if you goong to your honeymoon and your sister does her wedding you might not be able to go. My cousin just told me she also grtting married next month but she doing a city hall wedding with no guest. If she chose to do a dedtination wedding like she stated i wouldnt be able to attend due to money.

What boggles me that you will be tired from your own wedding to grt up early not just might be to go to the honeymoon but lets say you go a different week but the very next day to wake up and instead of relaxing and take everything in that you are now a mrs. You cant even enjoy it cause you will have to be getting ready for her wedding wth?

Oh wow. What's you guys' relationship like? Seems a tad like she's trying to one up you? Idk..

At least it's not the day before.....but yeah i'd be a bit annoyed as well

I would be upset, because how will people be at her rehearsal and your wedding? Plus, asking guests to travel three hours to hers isn't considerate. I'd talk to her.

I would be completely pissed and I would let her know! Maybe her Mom or someone close to her can help her understand this is a ridiculous idea.

Yikes! She could have at least picked the week after...maybe...I agree with Celia. Sounds like there is something more going on and you should talk to her.

I would be furious! Talk to her about it and let her know how you feel.

I would also bring up the logistics of it. Are people going to leave your wedding early so they are fresh for hers in the morning? Probably. Are people going to show up to her wedding hungover (or just not go at all)? Definitely. And honestly? I'm probably not going to an 11 am wedding to begin with. In my opinion, that's way too early. Is this going to help OOT guests? Or is it going to force them to choose between having a great time at your wedding or staying sober and going home early to make hers? Is she going to be able to attend your wedding the night before hers? She certainly can't have a few drinks and let loose with an 11:00 wedding. When will she have her rehearsal and rehearsal dinner? No one is going to skip your wedding for a rehearsal dinner and most venues only allow a rehearsal the day before the wedding. Is it important to her that you attend? It would be ridiculous for you to leave your own wedding sober and several hours early in order to be ready for her wedding, and I don't think you should.

I'm definitely not going to her wedding. It's selfish of her to say the least. I understand that she wants to be like me but this is over the top. She began the year saying that she would be doing a JP wedding. Now all of a sudden that she has gotten the details of my wedding now she wants the same. She has even chosen similar colors! I love her but this is definitely going to be a reason for me to pull back from her.

I'd be bothered by it. To get married & then the next day have to go to a wedding...booooo!!!

Wow...so she knew your wedding date, choose the day after for yours & never bothered to discuss it with you? Everyone's situation is different & some might agree/think it's a great idea, etc; but...how could she think this is OK?

Out of all the days in the world she chose the day after your wedding ??

Why would she plan her wedding the next day? Shouldn't you be on your honeymoon the next day? What does she expect you to do be late for your honeymoon because she being petty? The next week or 2 weeks later would have been a better time for your sister. Yeah I woukd be upset as well and wouldn't participate

@Alana, 1 week could still be an issue for their honeymoon. My brother is getting married the week after I am but I'm sure he just forget when our date was...long engagement. Nothing like the OPs situation :o

This is straight up ridiculous.... hopefully you sent your STDs out first. I know I'd be pissed! not to mention that her fiancé can get off work like all of humanity who has to get married. Honestly if it were me I wouldn't go because it's the day after your wedding! Wtf?! How is she going to expect you to go? I'd put it on blast which probably isn't the best idea for family dynamics lol buuuuut the situations puts me in an immature mood. Anyway I'm sorry OP.... that seriously sucks!! It'll be okay tho, for whatever reason she feels like she has to do this. Her FH should be weirded out by the fact that she chose a date for THEIR wedding because of YOU. So strange. I have my own story actually, I'll make it quick. I was engaged some years back and had my venue date for November 5th of 2011, well we broke up and he got in another relationship quickly got engaged and PICKED THE SAME DATE FOR THE SAME VENUE. They ended up breaking up lol but yeah crazy crap like that does happen. Again I'm sorry and I'd definitely talk to her, call her on her BS

I'd say it is pretty inconsiderate to your guests, she is forcing them to choose and they will likely choose yours, and then come the day of her wedding she will be hurt and upset when no one is there