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Just Said Yes September 2024

My wedding planning experience has/is dreadful.

Alexa, on August 24, 2024 at 10:37 PM Posted in Planning 0 1

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Hi girlies! I see so many beautiful wedding photos and brides here, reaching out to ask if the actual day ends up as much bliss as i picture it as?

My wedding planning experience has been utterly horrible despite that I think my planning logistics is going beautiful so far. My father passed away 9 months ago and on top of that still certain guests I feel just don’t understand the concept of support for the couple with weddings. Ive been yelled at to invite family friends I don’t know, told what logistics to change, told that people couldn’t help me, told I should be helping others with their life responsibilities they view as more important, etc. I’ve always been a “Type A doer” personality, so I’ve done the planning largely myself….and when I felt I was just planning OUR magical day it was fun. But so quickly it feels like I’m planning a party for other people instead. And man that gets me sad and over it at times. Stressing over details, blah blah and having like no time to really reflect on this next phase. It’s extra emotional for me with losing my dad who was the main person helping me plan the wedding he won’t be able to physically see. I feel I never had time to really be able to mourn his lose either.

Did any of you feel this way? When did it dissipate? And how were you able to let go and have fun on your day? Please motivate me lol xoxo

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Janet · Yesterday at 3:33 PM
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Photos are just a snap shot in time. Like Social Media, it could look like their day went absolutely perfect, but 5 seconds before or after that photo was taken, stuff could have gone wrong and they are just faking it. No wedding is perfect. Mine and plenty of others will have something go wrong. That's life and you just have to roll with it. My day ended with me so exhausted, that we just went to bed after driving my parents to the hotel (it was really funny).
There's a balance with planning. You have to plan for what you want as a couple, but you have to keep guests comfort in mind. That doesn't mean bow down to every wish. It sounds like you have not set up any boundaries and are just doing what people tell you, which is now pushing you deeper into a hole of sadness and stress. Have you expressed how you are feeling to your fiance?
Is you fiancé helping you plan in any way? Helping support you and vice versa with everyday life? With the loss of your dad, what have they done to step up and help so you have time to grieve? It's ok if you need to take a step back and put a hold on planning and evaluate.
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