My wedding was a crap show

Yikes so so sorry this happened to you.

I'm not sure why he didn't know you were doing the tosses???

So sorry this happened to you. Sounds like you need to write an honest online review of your planner so other brides can avoid the same issues. For now, just relax and enjoy some time with your husband and kids!

I am sorry about your planner—what exactly did your planner drag out to the point people left before dancing? How behind your timeline did you get?

The issue with your husband seems like a misunderstanding, and your planner should have grabbed him for the garter toss. It does sound like he was being helpful with your large number of kids and his parents who were doing you a big favor, and honestly, I think you owe him an apology for yelling at him on your wedding night.

Oh no. Was your planner experienced?
We do not have a planner, only a Matre D the day of. The way I figure it, our DJ and Matre D are going to control the timing of everything from our ceremony, cocktail hour music and start of reception entrances, etc. They will have the schedule of events to follow.

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, echo this, and would like to know where and how the timeline was pushed out. More details would be helpful to better understand what happened. Also, Isn’t it the DJ’s job to get the dance floor moving?

Remember, At the end of the day you got to marry your husband.

View Quoted Comment Oh my, I must agree it sounds as though you owe your husband quite the apology. If no one made him aware that you were doing the bouquet/garter toss, it really isn’t his fault. And it sounds as though he was being responsible by taking care of your MANY children. I would definitely plan something nice for him (maybe take him out for a romantic dinner just the two of you) and apologize for your overreaction and for blaming him for something that was not his fault. I know we all want our weddings to go perfectly as planned, and it’s extremely frustrating when it doesn’t; but tbh it sounds as though you overreacted and missed out on the opportunity to work as a team with your new husband to make the best of the situation. Instead of becoming angered, you could have simply laughed off the fact that you were sitting in a chair waiting for your hubby, and made a joke of it… “anyone seen my husband?.. didn’t anyone tell him it’s too late to get cold feet AFTER the ceremony?!” Everyone could’ve had a good laugh, and you could’ve moved on with your evening. Instead, you decided to remain angry and sabotage the rest of your wedding night by yelling at your brand new husband. That is not the way you want to start your marriage.

View Quoted Comment 100% agree!!!

It seems the poster deleted her account. That's a shame that something as small as a bouquet and garter toss upset her so much. Hopefully other clients don't have issues with that planner again!

What on earth did he apologize for? If he didn’t know there was a garter toss planned, that seems like a lapse in communication on your part. iI’s not like he was off being irresponsible….he was attending to your nine (?) children. At the end of the day, it’s a garter toss; don’t lose perspective on how inconsequential that is in the larger scheme. Focus on the positives and happy memories from your day. And apologize to your husband, lol.

Hi, CountryBride! I've been following your posts, and am so sad to read how disappointed you are. I know you put a lot of thought, time, and money into to your wedding. I hope you, your husband and family are doing well. If you reinstate your account, please post pictures of the great parts of your wedding, would love to see them. Congratulations, and my warmest Best wishes for your family!

View Quoted Comment She deleted her account?? She's been one of the most active users on here for years. Wow. I hope she's able to work through this, I can see how these feelings would be difficult.