Name change advice!

I’m getting married next month and still am unsure about my name. In my fiancé’s culture, they have their mothers last name and fathers last name hyphenated say mine is Jones and his is Smith. So our kids would have both of our names, Jones-Smith. I decided instead of just keeping my name I would hyphenate mine so it would match our kids. Now I’m not sure if I want to hyphenate it, or drop my middle name it’s Marie, I hate it, and make my maiden name my new “middle name.” Has anyone else done something similar? Any advice? I don’t want to upset my parents by dropping my middle name.