Name Change Decision

If he's wanting to change his name anyway, could you create your own? Maybe a hybrid of the last names? that way it's one word and not hyphenated?

So my full name is Arlene Emily Vargas. I’m dropping my middle name and adding my married name; so it’ll be Arlene Vargas Dickens. Which works perfectly for me bc I love the name Emily and wish I had gone by Emily instead but if I have a daughter I can name her Emily 😊🤷🏻‍♀️

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No, we're both set on his mom's maiden name. I just want to figure out the confusion/initials with my middle and maiden names.

I changed my name to First Maiden Last. So my maiden name became my middle name, and I lost my middle name. I'm happy with the decision. It's what my mother & grandmother did too. My initials are DDD now so not great but I literally never put my initials on anything so it doesn't matter.

First Middle Middle(Maiden) Last(Married)


So my maiden name is a second middle name.
I don’t use it anywhere other than on my social security card since most places only ask for one middle initial

I took my husbands last name, I love my dad but I wasn’t a huge fan of my last name to begin with

View Quoted Comment I think DDD could be a pretty cool signature! lol

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So if you *have* to choose only one middle name, which do you do? In that situation, I'd probably choose to only say my maiden/middle instead of my birth middle.

View Quoted Comment I use my birth middle since it’s “first” in the sequence of my name 🤷🏻‍♀️



My mom did this same thing though and some of her stuff she uses her birth middle initial and some stuff she uses her maiden name initial

View Quoted Comment I added my maiden name as a second middle name. In my state your full name (including middle name(s)) goes on your drivers license. If I was forced to have one middle name only? Hmmm... hyphenate my middle name then? 😂 My middle and maiden name both have significance to me so I wouldn’t want to erase either if given the option.

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So I was leaning towards dropping my middle name and using my maiden name as my middle, but my mom doesn't want me to lose my middle name. So I guess I'll do two middle names.

I dropped my middle name and took my maiden name as my middle name. I’ve had the hardest time getting my employer to change my name on everything that my name change doesn’t seem real. I still have to go by Laura MaidenName all day everyday.

View Quoted Comment I can’t imagine why showing them an official document like your social security card isn’t enough for them to change. Seems like they’re being unnecessarily difficult. I’ve been working in my industry for over 10 years so even though my name has changed plenty of people will continue to refer to me by my maiden name for at least a while and it doesn’t bother me. 😁

My new initials are PMS. That’s just how it is sometimes lol

I really want to keep my maiden name but thankfully don't have a middle name, so I'll just make my maiden name into my middle name. So I'll be Elizabeth Maiden Married.

I'm going with dropping the middle and making my maiden name my new middle name.

Unless you go by "Amanda Nicole". I would just drop Nicole and put your maiden name as your middle name.

I'm keeping my name, but am considering informally using my fiance's last name in my personal life/for those close to me

My fiance is taking my last name! He's a third, didn't really know his dad so he wants to get rid of his last name. I wasn't keen on the whole idea of taking the man's last name anyway. I've had my last name my whole life, why change it? We discussed hyphenating or making a new last name, but he was really set on taking mine so it all worked out!

First Middle Maiden-New. I didn't want to completely give up my last name or my middle name. So I decided to keep all of my names and hyphenate my last name.