Napkins vs Ring Holders Annoyance

Do you even need napkin rings?

My mommom is like this. I can't stand it. Seriously, do you need the napkin rings? I couldn't see my self using them after the wedding. I would just go with like you were doing buying the napkins to add color to the table. No use to be using napkin rings.

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Noooo. I don't need them. I would maybe keep like 12 for holidays or something but wouldn't need any of the rest. She just thought that would put the blue element I wanted but I think she just blindly decides this stuff even though she didn't check costs lol. Not to mention my blue is very specific I only found navy blue, some light blues, and turquoise napkin rings; none are my color.

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No I don't! She just wanted me to have my blue element on the table, but didn't think about the cost or maybe thought napkin rings would be way cheaper than the colored napkins, but they aren't.

Personally speaking, I think saving money in any place is a good thing. The way I look at it, is that if you rent the napkins, that's it. That money is gone and spent. But if you buy the napkin rings, you could sell them after the wedding on FB marketplace and get some if not all of that money back. That's what I am doing. It sounds like she is just trying to help you out and you may be taking it the wrong way. Weddings are expensive and every dollar saved helps.

Maybe look on the buy/sell wedding sites to see if someone has blue napkins you could purchase and then you could sell again after your wedding

Sorry but nobody's going to remember what color your napkins were or if there were rings or not.
This is unnecessary spend your time on something else

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The problem is napkin rings are not the color blue I even need so it seems pointless to waste my time doing this if it isn't what I want color-wise. Yes, I am selling back other decor items. Every dollar saved helps if it makes sense to do so in my mind. She wants to save in some places and spend more in other unnecessary places which isn't really saving at all.

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This is a good thought but the problem is I am already paying for all linens included in my wedding package pricing. So it's not like they're just going to deduct the cost of napkins for me if I chose to provide my own. So I'd be paying double then.

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This comment was unnecessary haha. Did you have all white linens on your tables (tablecloth, possible runner, and napkins)? Because no offense that's boring af.

View Quoted Comment A bit sassy you're right, I didn't mean to offend. I meant there's a million things to get stuck on and at times less is more, but certainly depends on the space. I'm basically saying pick your battles or it'll make your head whirl.

I went to about 5 weddings last year and don't remember the linens or napkins or flatware or servingware or drinkware.

We were lucky to have mismatching wood tables and chairs at a restaurant and it was nice to expose that. We had no linens just floral bud vases, it didn't need to be lavish since we had a daytime easy Sunday morning brunch wedding with stations, we didn't have escort cards or place settings.

Perhaps it felt sparse but we didn't want clutter to distract from the already beautiful space and get in the way of guests interacting. We put more time towards working on the experience, food, dancing, cadence of the day.

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Sorry I didn't mean for it to come out that way since I misinterpreted what you meant. I wish I could have wood tables. But yes, I guess you are right at the end nobody is going to remember the napkin color. I am just about aesthetics for picture reasons, that's why I wanted colored rather than white. I'll have to think on it more if it's something I even want to fuss over or if the centerpieces will make the tables pop enough all on their own. Or even if the weddings before me go with colored or just white. The first wedding is in May and the venue has been all about instagram so I am sure I can get ideas.

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All friends here!

I totally get that— of all the weddings I went to last year, everything was green and white and everything kind of was washed out. Actually pushed me to pivot and change my color palette for my florals completely, to add tons of color and texture. I do believe that the details make everything— I'm a designer, but also ya gotta pick your battles.

If you are doing napkin rings that could double as favors and/or name cards somehow that could be interesting and will leave you with less after the fact! I had a friend who had handmade soap that was wrapped and had everyones names and tables on there, then were taken home at the end of the evening. It was elegant, classy, and utilitarian.

Regardless, details DO matter, just want to be sure that it's worth the headache! Moms do tend to obsess, push your buttons, and enable you. I politely hoarded all the ideas with my husband so we didn't get everyone involved in every detail, things spiral quickly, and then you resurface and wonder why you spent so much time on things that you could have a gut reaction to and just follow that.

Can't wait to see how it turns out!