Necessary or Not: Wedding Cake?

Necessity!! Cake cutting but no cake smashing.

For my wedding, it is a necessity, lol. However, I think the way everyone is customizing weddings to their own individual styles nowadays that it isn't necessarily a necessity for everyone. People are constantly changing up tradition and doing their own thing!

Cake was a necessity to us, but we're going with a small cutting cake and cupcakes for our guests. I've been to way too many weddings where they served beautiful 3+ tier cakes that mostly went to waste.

Necessity in my opinion. It can be on the smaller side and have other desserts, but I LOVE cake. I am thinking about cake when I am at your wedding. Not how cute you are. Cake.

No cake smashing. That's nasty.

I don't think a wedding cake is a necessity, per say; however, I do believe whatever the bride and groom are having for dessert for themselves should be extended/offered to the guests as well (whether that be cookies, cupcakes, etc.)

It's not necessary, I'm getting married this November and we're not having a wedding cake. In my opinion most of the time wedding cakes are super experience, dry and just don't taste very good. We decided to skip on a cake that might be half way eaten and do a nice little dessert table instead. It's really helped with saving money and we won't be left with a ton of cake no one wanted after the reception is over.

I dont think cake is necessary at a wedding. Just an expectation.

This was an absolute must for us. My grandmother was a very very talented cake baker/decorator and personally I am not so bad my self lol. Not only was it important to have one (I haven never been to a wedding without one and mine would not be the first!) but it was very important for it to look and taste perfect!

Unnecessary for my microwedding. Plus, I’m not a fan of giving sweets to people. My mom was a dental tech and she rarely allowed me to eat sweets. I’m thankful for her now because I love my healthy teeth.

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Lol!!! I'm the same way, I have the biggest sweet tooth so bring me the cake!!!

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Yes it makes me so sad! The last wedding I went to, they had a gorgeous 4 tier cake and I watched them pack up most of it!

We are having a small cake for the cake cutting, but having cupcakes with different flavors so there is a variety for everyone to enjoy...and for me to enjoy lol. Major sweet tooth.

Definitely necessary for us. We are so excited about the cake!

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We’re having a donut tower “cake” for our wedding. FH and I are not big on traditional wedding cake and don’t see it as a necessity!

Dessert is necessary, but cake is not. We are having cake but I think it's totally fine for others to do donuts, cupcakes, whatever.

I wasn't going to have one. Our caterer includes a sweets table and cakes are too expensive. But in a conversation with my maid of honor, she was complaining about how her cousin's wedding didn't have a wedding cake, and I let her know our plans. She's decided to make a small cake for us to do a traditional cutting with, and I'm guessing she plans on having a slice of the cake. I've also had to request that she or her boyfriend cut the cake to serve, because the venue charges for that.

This is a necessity for us. We will most likely do the cake smash too.

View Quoted Comment I just have to chime in. I'm having the opposite problem. I'm going round and round with our baker. We want a teeny 3 tier wedding cake ( if she had smaller tiers I'd get them). Tier sizes 6-8-10. Very elaborate. Serves 60. We are having a private ceremony. The baker doesn't want to make this cake for us!! She said its too big and what are we going to do with it? I told her, " Eat it!" Our venue is an historic mansion turned Inn and we have use of their refrigerator. And we are mini-mooning wth them. We thought we'd send some home with family, give some to the Inn's employees, and munch on the rest over 4 days. Shheeeeh....let us have OUR Cake! 😂

It's a necessity for me, but we are doing just a small cake to cut, and then cupcakes for the guests.