So I have a friend whom until last year, we used to hang out with regularly. I told her and her partner we were engaged before we were social media public. I ran into her recently and realized...wow we hadn't hung out in 6+ month! She claims, sorry she's so anti social, been so busy, a bad friend etc. We talked and hung out there and here's the part where I messed up in hindsight: we talked about my upcoming wedding as if she was invited. I never SAID she was but it was kind of implied/assumed. At the time, in my head, she was!
There was also a really awkward situation where she didn't invite us to her birthday so her partner reached out, saying it was originally going to be different events for different friend groups but now, hey, we should come! We originally told her partner, yes we'd go. When I saw ran into her, she even mentioned her birthday was coming up and still didn't invite us. After that run in, I felt awkward and we decided to skip the birthday. Ran into her at a mutual friend's house a few weeks later and we never mentioned the birthday, We chatted in a group at the event but that was it.
After those awkward run-ins, I came to the realization that if I never reached out, we probably wouldn't stay friends. I have no hard feelings towards her but now I just feel meh and haven't reached out at all. I honestly could take it or leave it. Life is too short for one sided friendships. So... we haven't spoken. If I don't reach out, I'm pretty sure we won't speak at all from now until the wedding (over 6 months away) unless at a group event. At that point, it'll be over a year since she initiated a conversation with me.
All of our mutual friends (including the ones she introduced me to) are going to be invited.
If you were in my situation, would you still invite them? Would it be awkward if I didn't considering I acted like they were going to be? Am I semi-obligated to invite them now?