Need Advice! Is it rude to back out of a bachelorette party?

Hey all! Appreciate any advice here as it’s a decision that is weighing heavy on me.


One of my best friends is having an international wedding in July. And she is also having a bachelorette party mid June to Scottsdale and there’s only about 7 of us going. I’m torn because i just moved down to Florida with my husband and our 6 month old- we’ve been building a home since January 2021 and have been hit with delay after delay. We finally got our closing date which happens to be the same week as her bachelorette party. It doesn’t feel right to me that I’d be leaving my husband with our baby during a huge move (and also the most exciting time in our lives) also want to add that we only have about 2 1/2 weeks in the new house and then we are heading back to NY for over a month to see friends/family and then flying out from there for the wedding. So we really want to spend as much time as we can in the new house.
I wouldn’t be asking for my money back and i don’t want to screw anybody over. I just feel terrible because i also couldn’t make it to the bridal shower. Help!