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Jenny
Just Said Yes April 2021

Need advice on cancelling wedding

Jenny, on January 21, 2021 at 3:28 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
My fiancé and I have been engaged since the fall of 2019. We were planning on having a long engagement and our wedding has been planned for awhile for April 17, 2021. It’s a destination wedding in Florida, and was always going to be small (50 tops). A lot of people who said - promised - they would be there are now backing out since they “thought things would be better by now”, or they are planning on waiting until the last minute to RSVP. My fiancé has two people coming from his side, and his best man backed out. I’m so exhausted and frustrated from working all the time and this wedding is just making me so unhappy and even more frustrated. What’s the point of spending all this money? We could have bought a car or invested in a house instead of it going towards a wedding that no one is coming to. And I don’t want to postpone it. I’m just so disappointed about everything and frankly I’m disappointed in a few friends who have traveled massless during the pandemic but still can’t make it to wedding.
I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about this either because they all seem to have their own interests involved. I don’t know what the right thing to do is. Part of me wants to cancel while I still can.

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Latest activity by Jenny, on February 24, 2021 at 4:02 PM
  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    At this point, you basically have 4 options available to you.

    1. Go ahead with your wedding as planned, regardless of how many people show up

    2. Postpone the wedding til next year
    3. Cancel the wedding and just elope the two of you (or just go to the courthouse, etc)
    4. Get married on your date and have a reception with friends and family at a later time
    I would sit down and make a pros & cons list for each option, then decide which option is best for you & your fiancé. Unfortunately, being a bride during the pandemic is not the same carefree experience brides in the past have had. There is a lot of uncertainty, fear, disappointment, rolling with the punches, etc. In the end, you just need to make the decision that is best for the two of you. If having your dream wedding in Florida is really important to you and you feel you will regret not doing it in the future, it may be worth it to postpone. If having that dream wedding is not that important to you, then I would consider one of the other three options.
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  • Sharonda
    Super January 2021
    Sharonda ·
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    I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. Would you consider still getting married — just you and your fiancé or a smaller group of people? Due to COVID, I canceled my 250 person wedding and had a 20 person one. I was hellbent on having the wedding experience, so while I did save money by having a smaller one, I probably spent more than the average 20 person wedding. It was all about not cheating myself from having those bridal moments and the wedding experience — and it was the best day ever. You’ll have to figure out what’s more important - the experience or the experience with your guests. Neither one is wrong, but only you can make that decision. If it is more important to have everyone there, then cancel (or postpone). If not, modify your original plans and cut off some expenses to the extent you want to and can, and have the wedding experience that is most important to you and your fiancé. Don’t get discouraged - it‘s your day and you get to have it your way. Hang in there!
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  • Jenny
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Jenny ·
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    Thank you - I started crying when I read this message. You’re right. Thank you for your empathy. I’ve been really craving this, and it means so much.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I canceled my wedding and decided to elope instead. Too much money and I was disappointed in others, similar experience like you had. I'm so much more happy now.
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  • Sharonda
    Super January 2021
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    Aww! Don’t cry!! You’re very welcome. Just know you’re not alone. That’s what this forum is for, and I’m glad to return the same favor that other WW brides (and grooms) gave to me! I know it is a stressful and difficult decision, but this is the one time you get to be selfish, do what will be best for you and your fiancé and leave you with no regrets. Either way, you got this!!
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  • Jenny
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Jenny ·
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    Unfortunately my fiancé really wants a wedding.. I guess even if it ends up being just us because no one shows. It feels like putting us through more torture in the process though. I’m glad that you had a positive experience though, and thank you for your advice!
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  • Jenny
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Jenny ·
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    Just ended up seeing this comment. We have our (most likely) final guest count and it’s about 25 people. I’m pretty happy with it.


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