Need advice

I would just have who you gave now. People will get over it. If the other nieces want, they could be greeters or something. I wouldn't include SIL

You don't have to include your sister in law, I wouldn't - my brother isn't standing up with my FH and my FH's sister isn't standing up with me. They don't care that they aren't in the bridal party. Just because you include one doesn't mean you have to include them all - like Elizabeth said they could be greeters, or you could have them do a reading

I think what you have now is fine, unless your extended family is super close. Yes, the one niece is the only one in the wedding party, but that can be seen as a gesture of honor to your deceased brother so I don't think it's necessary to have ALL the nieces. If these were little girls I would say make them flower girls or something to avoid hurt feelings, but they're adults and they need to deal with it

If the nieces want to be in the wedding but you don't, they'll get angry,or at least, disapointed... even if you give them another role. However: I'll NEVER UNDERSTAND the reason why some people throw a fit or end a relationship when not asked to be in a wedding,especially adults!

Most people will suggest you to make the nieces greeters or readers but ... these suggestions only work if the person would be fine with the idea of being included in another way, not if the person only wants to be in the wedding and nothing else. It doesn't sound like they would be happy with another role.

You don't have to ask your sister in-law because her husband is included. You should only ask your closest friends and family members to stand by your side. If the sister in-law gets upset, that's HER problem, not yours.

Stick with you have now. If you want to include them, have them be ushers and greeters as guests arrive. Otherwise generally some people actually do not enjoy being in weddings and would prefer to be a guest if they are not a bridesmaid/groomsman. You are never under obligation to include anyone in working.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Fred! Your totally right!!! It’s my day, and they will get over it… because assigning them job wouldn’t be enough for them. So I’ll deal with the consequences. Thank you for your feedback