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Alecia
Beginner September 2022

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Alecia, on May 3, 2022 at 2:13 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11
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Looking for advice.... my fhs best friend is having a surprise birthday party at another bar than the one I currently manage. I manage a vfw club so I have to answer to many bosses. We are having a bridal party and I had asked the other bar if I could post a flyer. Well he told me he wouldn't do it to support another business. Confused I just left with my flyer and vented to my friends about it and it got back to him and he contacted one of my many bosses about it and I got my ass chewed. I don't feel it's right for this guy to get me in trouble with my bosses and my fh to not support me and spend mother's day weekend with me (since I am a mother and it should be about me lol) and not support a bar that causes this.



If he can't support me before we get married how can I trust him to support me after?

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Latest activity by Michelle, on May 4, 2022 at 11:47 AM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    This is very confusing. Who is the "he" who called your bosses? How did your FH not support you? What does any of this have to do with Mother's day? I'm not surprised the other place wouldn't hang a flyer for an event somewhere else. Every place of business I've worked wouldn't hang flyers for the competition.
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2022
    Taylor ·
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    I’m very confused by your post but I understand the flyer situation. Most businesses wouldn’t do that
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  • Alecia
    Beginner September 2022
    Alecia ·
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    I'm sorry but it wouldn't let me edit the post. What happened was I asked for permission to hang the flyers and the owner said no which at that time I was fine with it just coming from a small community we should all support each other but what the problem is was my bridesmaid took a couple of flyers and hung them in the owners bathrooms without asking and I got in my ass chewed for it because the owner contacted my boss's. Now the flyers are for my bridal party and wasn't advertisement for the vfw but since I am the club manager they are considering it as such. Hope that clarifies a little more.
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I admit I don't understand the issue, either, even after your 2nd post.

    But I guess here's your main question, "If he can't support me before we get married how can I trust him to support me after?" If the *HE* in that question is your future spouse, then that is a a really important question that you need to answer before you do any more wedding planning. I hope you can figure this out. I wish you luck!

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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
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    Why would you want to even have your bridal shower at a bar if he is then let them. But the best man sounds like he may have knew that it may cause you problems so if it's not at any establishment's that you work at. But if you had any other problems I'm sure that he would support you this is your jobs. I hope that it will work out
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  • Jacks
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    Sorry what were you promoting with your flyer? Why would one bar put up a flyer to promote another bar? I can't think of anyone that would do that.

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  • Alecia
    Beginner September 2022
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    It was for my bridal party.... I'm not complaining that the bar wouldn't put it up. I could have cared less. I'm complaining about how the other owner got me in trouble with work because of someone else hanging the flyers.
    Plus other bars around this area do promote each other. This guy has been trying to run the other bars in town out of business which hasn't worked.
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  • Alecia
    Beginner September 2022
    Alecia ·
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    No one understands what I am getting at and I can't figure out how to delete the thread. I'm just mad at my fh because he isn't supporting me before marriage. No one needs to reply anymore
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    But you're not explaining how your FH isn't supporting you. If he isn't supporting you on somethings, you need to have open and honest communication with him about how that's making you feel.
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  • Alecia
    Beginner September 2022
    Alecia ·
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    I thought I had put in there that he wants to go to the other bar for some other party and isn't supporting me but I'm over it I don't need any advice anymore I just don't want anyone else commenting on this post and I can't figure out how to delete it or edit the thing. It was just a mistake to even post asking for advice because I was extremely upset about what was going on.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Your feelings are valid. You can be upset all you want. What you are expressing as the storyline is confusing. The flyer was for a engagement party or bridal shower? Those are not for you to plan. Someone else hosts those. This is completely unrelated to Mother’s Day. You need to sit down with fiancé and discuss everything openly and honestly so you are on the same page. People do things everyday we don’t like or understand but that doesn’t mean they don’t love or support you because their view may be opposite. How specifically is he not supportive of you? Did he do or say something offensive?
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