Need bridesmaids, no friends.

I would just stick with the 2 people you have chosen! The sides of wedding parties do not need to be even (it's actually becoming a bit old fashioned to try to get even sides). You should only ask those people who are extremely close to you, present in your life, and supportive of your relationship - very rarely do those amounts of people end up the exact same number for both bride and groom.

Don't worry about sides being even but I would suggest waiting about a year before making any decisions. Relationships can change and you could have someone else you'd like to ask as it gets closer to your wedding, similar to your FH - he may not want the same 4 now as two years from now. Give it some time and ask who you truly want.

Sides don't have to be even. It's fine if you have 2 and he has 4. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding like that.

The bridesmaid role is about honoring relationships, it’s not a job or spot to fill. There’s nothing wrong with uneven sides. In fact, If the numbers don’t work out that way naturally then they shouldn’t be even.

Stick with who you have. Currently sides are becoming uneven. Never ask anyone out of obligation last minute or because you are feeling guilty in any way. The people asked should only be your current closest people in your life.

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That is a great point. Thank you so much for the advice!

Thank you for all of the responses! I appreciate all of the insight more than you could know! It seems like the most logical decision to wait at least a year before we consider the bridal party members. Thank you all, once more!

View Quoted Comment Based on other posts on this topic from months and years prior via the search feature, the consensus is to not ask anyone prior to 6-9 months before the wedding. They don’t have duties beyond purchasing a dress and showing up at the rehearsal and wedding day to support you. Asking them before a year out and asking the wrong person because you are a people pleaser always backfires.

View Quoted Comment I would wait until 6 months out to ask your party. There are tons of stories on here where parties were asked too soon and brides regretted it due to changes in relationships.

I agree with all the other ladies. Wait before you ask anyone because relationships/friendships changes over time. It happened to my FH and I. He had asked his childhood best friend to be his Best Man and everything was going great until one Sunday we was having a cook out and invited a few friends along with my MOH and FH Best Man. Well his best man cause some problems that day and cursed at my FH and I and he removed himself from our wedding party which was a blessing in itself. Considering that he had already made some passes at me and I thought I had taken care of it so I never said anything to my FH until that day that everything went haywire. I didn't say nothing because I didn't want to cause problems but when the ex best man done what he did that day in front of our guest, I was relieved that he dropped out of the wedding on his own. I won't go into the gruesome details of that day, but lets just say, him and my FH are no longer friends. But he has tried contacting my FH but FH doesn't want anything else to do with him. So please do wait before you ask anyone. I wouldn't want you or anyone else going through what we went through from someone that my FH thought highly of.

I thought I was in the same boat and I just picked girls at that were always there for me or that I can count on who I went to college with and another girl was my coworker. Haven’t hung out with them in probably over a year but I know that they are the ones that would be the girls I could count on.
I would pick a co worker or maybe you are close with a cousin?

Wait to choose. So many things in life change when you get engaged and go through the engagement period. With yourself, with each other and most definitely with other people. Good and bad! Of course, if you know of someone most definitely that sure isn't going anywhere, there is nothing wrong with telling that person now, or sooner than others.

Don't feel like the "even steven" on both sides is necessary! It is NOT. If you opt for it though, think clearly on who should be in that spot. Don't just "Fill the spot." You could look back on photos and in your memories for years to come regretting the decision (Which seems to happen MORE than) : You could also begin a close relationship with someone and that person becomes one of your most favorite people ever. You just never know, so think long and hard! Take it seriously!

We opted for NO wedding party. I never wanted one. He never did either. We just want our peoples to be there and enjoy, support our union and celebrate that afterwards. Also, we have saved ourselves the headaches that come from having a wedding party. And they will come!! Not being a negative nelly here, just being transparently, honest. Despite not having a wedding party, we have been supported thus far by the right people. The ones who are there no matter what, and whom have NO issues helping a bride out if she needs help to go to the bathroom, putting together favors or being present at all the fun events beforehand. No titles given. None are needed. IF we did have a wedding party, our lineup would have been uneven. We did discuss the "What if we DID do that? Who would YOU have?" conversation. In fact, my response to it all was: "We'd be lopsided." And if we did choose the option of a wedding party; I'd have gladly embraced the lopsidedness, as opposed to just adding someone/ anyone.

Give yourself some time, so many things change!