Need serious advise from married couples

Can I ask you
What are your top 3 struggles maybe more detail than just a simple answer. I want to have conversations about this. I myself am in a struggle for since I guess since we got married. I’m an ambitious bread winner and my husband couldn’t even answer my grandmother where does he see himself in 5 years. He has no goals or ambititions and just enjoys rolling through life. We bought our first place together about a year ago and it was a struggle. He imagined himself in a house with a yard. And I was like that is what your dad said, not you. We didn’t make enough to be able to have that. His parents wanted me on it us a house and I didn’t want that becuZ I wanted us to earn it not just given to us and I know that would of had strings attached, that’s their gift giving mentality. I feel like if we had done things his way I would be miserable. He lacks the career and go-getter mentality which leaves me to being that only person. I want an equal partner, I want to work for things and things not being given to me. I want me and the other person to have goals, plans and other things. Now we live in a condo/townhome and i just sit here sad a lot, resentful and emotionally drained. I didn’t pay attention to the bigger things before we got married. He even said to me recently he used to want to do things for me but not anymore. Im just at a loss. I just want to be happy and live my life. We were supposed to start trying to have kids now but he was supposed to have some of his career stuff straightened out by now…his fault he didn’t. Now im just starting to realize his lack of ambition and no goals is not going to lead the life I envision with the other person. I feel really sad that we are in this unhappy relationship. We try to talk things through and all I hear is excuses for his laziness or lack of motivation. Now I am just like what the hell are we even doing it not building a life together. I could do that this without him and that makes me sad. I know these talks don’t make him feel good but we’ve been having them for so long I’m at a loss