Need some advice.. update

Do you have all of the payments made for the wedding, or at least have the money in savings waiting to make the payment? If so, I don't think there's any reason to stop him from spending his own money on leisure items. If you truly don't want him to for safety reasons, I think it's important to tell him that, don't blame it on finances. If you don't have the money to pay for your vendors or whatever else for the wedding, let him know what all still needs to be paid and that you guys can revisit the conversation once the wedding is paid off.

My FH is the same way with electronics. He always wants something new. I just ask him what else do we have left to pay for for the wedding/other unexpected expenses. That usually calms him down for a bit because he realizes how much we still need to pay for. I would sit down and have a talk with him like the other girls have said.

This is my fiance to a tee.

My FH decided he's dropping $650 today to have a shop sand paint and top coat the new bed of his truck. I was like whatever fine to that. Then he was mentioning he could get his truck fixed before the wedding. I said absolutely not with you already fixing the bed. He's been driving around for years practically since he bought the thing and has never gotten the issue fixed so I said don't be a smart alec and try and fix it now before the wedding just because you got a bonus at work. I swear they don't think at all. It makes my blood boil. I am like yeah that bonus could go towards wedding costs and a honeymoon. We are pretty much squared away with wedding costs, like we know we can make the payments, but with vegas bachelorette/bachelor party flights to book and a honeymoon that's in limbo it's like he can't comprehend what's going on.

Exaaactly this

I would look into pre-marital counseling that can help you get on the same page financially.

Do you all have the money for the remaining wedding expenses already saved? Do you have emergency savings? Can he afford these things without it having a negative impact on him being able to afford his share of living expenses and joint savings goals? If all of these things are covered, I don't see why he shouldn't be able to spend his money on things he wants.

As a previous poster has said, it sounds like you need to have a serious discussion about finances and budgeting. You need to figure out what your necessary monthly and yearly expenses are, what you want your joint savings goals to be, and decide on reasonable amounts of spending money for each of you that you can spend on whatever you want without having to get "permission" from the other for.

Oh yeah, I hear you. They really don't understand the cost of things either lol. Like he'll come to me first before he makes a big purchase and I always have to say "okay but you know we still have to pay for a security deposit, pay the other half of our vendors, etc right? Men.. lol. We love em but man, they can't keep up!