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Super October 2019

Need to be petty for a minute- rant!

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Cassi, on September 26, 2019 at 4:59 PM

Uhg... I just need to rant and be petty for a moment..... Back story: my FH has a great gig. They pay him very well and he has a company car, phone, they pay for his insurance and gas.... Its an amazing job... bad side... his ex of 3 years works with him. Her family actually owns the company. I...

Uhg... I just need to rant and be petty for a moment.....

Back story: my FH has a great gig. They pay him very well and he has a company car, phone, they pay for his insurance and gas.... Its an amazing job... bad side... his ex of 3 years works with him. Her family actually owns the company. I don't like this girl I have never been a jealous type but this girl has done everything in her power to insert herself in our lives... examples:

when we first started dating she tried getting back with him and he turned her down and she said she was pregnant... she wasn't.

a few months into our relationship I went on a cruise for my best friends wedding and he couldn't come.. she sat in his ear the whole time telling him I was cheating on him.

she started dating someone and he hit her and she left him and she came crying to my FH.

When we went to TN last year looking at our venue she called him and was crying cause their manager was being "mean" and threatening to fire her -_-

She told FH she wanted to fight me once because I "looked at her funny" at the gym.

Then we went to a company Christmas party last year and she was acting all buddy buddy with me cause she was dating someone with a kid and was talking about how amazing it is being a mom trying to bond with me because I am a mom. Then runs into some of FH's old friends that were around back when they dated and went on to talk crap about me and him and saying he only broke up with her because she lost a bunch of weight and he was insecure... then got so hammered started trying to hang on FH and kiss him.. we left.

there is so much more but these are just SOME of the MANY incidents.

Now my FH is a saint. He despises her but acknowledges he works for her parents so stays corgule but always reiterates to her they are exes and not friends. They work together and thats it.

Well she reaches out to me today and asks if we are registered anywhere... reluctantly I told her amazon.. I try to be corgle too because I know FH has it good there. She messages me and says everyone at AFI (the company he works for) is going in on a gift for us. I thanked her and told her to extend my gratitude to everyone else as well. then she says "I got something special on my own for you guys too" i AGAIN THANKED HER AND BRUSHED IT OFF.

I got the notification that something was purchased and I go look and she got this chess set that my FH registered for (he loves chess, I hate it but I know he loves it so I told him to put it on there). I KNOW this is super petty but I'm actually really agitated she got it for him. She tries to be all buddy buddy with him. Its a gift and I should be thankful (one less thing I have to buy him lol) but the fact it came from her because she knows how much he loves it... just seemed almost sneaky to me. Honestly I wouldn't think twice if any of his other exes did this but HER... everything she does she does it with ulterior motives to win him back and I'm just so fed up with it.

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Michelle · on September 29, 2019 at 12:17 PM
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Omg I'm so agitated with her smh. WOW! Honey don't worry, he's with you and YOU got that ring! No man wants a bitter, sloppy, jealous woman. Your good! I think your concerns are very valid and hopefully she learns her place soon. At this point, you've handled it pretty well in my opinion.
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Michelle · on September 29, 2019 at 12:18 PM
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😂😂😂 this is the best advice everrrr!!!
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Marquita · on September 29, 2019 at 1:33 PM
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Sister bride, show her how much y’all appreciate chess and how much joy it’s bringing YALL and let her be. Honestly it sounds like he needs to look into finding a new job. I personally wouldn’t allow that to continue. I would tell mine to find something else because I don’t have time. Good luck hun! And FYI, you’re not overthinking anything. Ex’s really can try to crawl under your skin. Just never show her you’re bothered. Eventually she’ll back off cause she’ll realize she looks stupid.
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Heather · on September 29, 2019 at 1:36 PM
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I work in HR as well but also for family owned businesses that will disregard HR guidance. I would just find another job and then tell them why. Depending on her influence they may offer you more to stay or correct the issue, but you need a job offer just in case. They may get rid of him to please her. Life is too short for that kind of stress and the job market is great for qualified job seekers. This is not likely to end unless she finds someone else to stalk.
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Alyssa · on September 29, 2019 at 2:50 PM
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YUP, this! Or you could say you're loving learning how to play with him! And maybe somehow say you love working out the next moves! Sorry this is so stressful, hopefully it changes! Good luck!
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Jennifer · on September 30, 2019 at 12:52 PM
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Thanks!!! I guess the petty jumped out and took over the keyboard for me LOL!
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Future Mrs. Danger · on September 30, 2019 at 4:53 PM
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He is marrying you. You win. Move on.
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Alejandra · on September 30, 2019 at 5:13 PM
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WOW. This girl needs a smack in the face. Like everyone else said, a thank you note about how you both will enjoy it so much. I would also tell him to establish work boundaries - no phone calls outside of work, yada yada.
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Tonja · on September 30, 2019 at 7:01 PM
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I feel you, girl! I know that it's hard to keep your composure when you have so much stress going on all the time, but you are doing an amazing job. Look at it this way: he left her and chose you. He Chose You! You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him and tell him that you are feelings ways that a bride-to-be shouldn't have to feel. Tell him that you need him to be more reassuring or aggressively taken if need be. My FH has an ex that was raised extremely close to his family, and her mother is a true saint. It breaks my heart to have to find a way to not include the ex while including her mother, but I'm gonna do it. Chin up and remember that the man you love and want to spend your life with is worth fighting for, but he needs to make sure you know that you don't need to fight for him because he isn't going anywhere. Hope all gets better soon.
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Florida Marlins · on September 30, 2019 at 8:34 PM
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I agree with the posters who said take a picture of the two of playing chess, not in bed but laying on your bed. Or a close up of the two of you with your ring finger showing. Your fiance needs to set up boundaries and perhaps HR should be involved if she is harassing him, which it sounds like she is doing.
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